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Old 08-26-2010, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Portland
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Ok so the girls i've meet since i've moved to Portland i swear are just either liars, or love to talk out their asses. But there are a hand full that are cool and i talk to on a regular basis that i can actually consider a friend but the ones that i would pursue a relationship with are just full of it. I'm young(24) black educated male, own my own car, own home, 2 kids, and i am very financially stable. And i ALWAYS mention my two kids when i meet someone because i don't want them thinking i hid my kids because my kids always come first. I just don't get the women i've been meeting why they feel the need to say we can hangout or whatever then come up with some lame excuse not to. Anybody else ran into this problem like me?
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Old 08-26-2010, 06:15 PM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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I'm curious as to what a 'black education' consists of. I think I am on safe ground saying that I don't think your problem is specific to Portland. Did you not get any of this wherever you lived before?

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Old 08-26-2010, 08:12 PM
 
Location: Beaverton
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It's a possibility that Portland women don't really care how financially stable you are as compared with women from other places (I'm just guessing). Maybe you should talk to them about books and music and travel next time. It might work....you never know.
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Old 08-26-2010, 10:19 PM
 
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I'm curious as to what a 'black education' consists of. I think I am on safe ground saying that I don't think your problem is specific to Portland. Did you not get any of this wherever you lived before?

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Re-read his post. He didn't say 'black education'. He said he's a young educated black man.
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Old 08-27-2010, 10:57 AM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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I know, I was just having some dead-pan fun. Emoticons just kill the joke IMO.

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Old 08-28-2010, 01:20 AM
 
Location: Portland
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I know, I was just having some dead-pan fun. Emoticons just kill the joke IMO.

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nice try MAYBE next time it'll work. lol
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Old 08-28-2010, 01:28 AM
 
Location: Portland
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It's a possibility that Portland women don't really care how financially stable you are as compared with women from other places (I'm just guessing). Maybe you should talk to them about books and music and travel next time. It might work....you never know.
I usually just be me and it works but when we get to the point where we could go out i get the run around or something. There are some nice women out there for me i just haven't found her yet. And i NEVER mention how i'm financially stable, i don't say anything until they ask what i do for a living or how do i pay my bills.
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Old 08-28-2010, 02:54 AM
 
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Pendemic, from reading your post I think the key is that the women you choose to pursue romantically are no good for you and the women you consider only friends are actually the good ones. So I'd advise reevaluating those friends as romantic partners instead. This complaint usually comes from women - they are attracted to the bad boys and put the nice guys on the sideline, but it's not surprising that it could happen the other way around too.
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Old 08-28-2010, 08:28 AM
 
Location: Beaverton
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I usually just be me and it works but when we get to the point where we could go out i get the run around or something. There are some nice women out there for me i just haven't found her yet. And i NEVER mention how i'm financially stable, i don't say anything until they ask what i do for a living or how do i pay my bills.
So, how long do you wait to decide if you want to ask them out? If you wait too long, you are already in the 'friend zone'.
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Old 08-31-2010, 05:05 AM
 
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Ok so the girls i've meet since i've moved to Portland i swear are just either liars, or love to talk out their asses. But there are a hand full that are cool and i talk to on a regular basis that i can actually consider a friend but the ones that i would pursue a relationship with are just full of it. I'm young(24) black educated male, own my own car, own home, 2 kids, and i am very financially stable. And i ALWAYS mention my two kids when i meet someone because i don't want them thinking i hid my kids because my kids always come first. I just don't get the women i've been meeting why they feel the need to say we can hangout or whatever then come up with some lame excuse not to. Anybody else ran into this problem like me?


Wow 24 with 2 kids? That SUCKS! I'm 22 with NO kids, and couldn't imagine wasting my life on them. Maybe you should be concerned about your children and not so much dating (that is what parents are supposed to do).

Just like millions of single mothers out there, you're in the same boat. Most men prefer women without kids, and vise versa. Not many want the little snotty nosed step child responsibility.

Maybe you should hook back up "wit yo baba momma" ;-) or momma's lol. (prob correct)
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