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Old 10-15-2011, 03:22 PM
 
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OK so i dont understand what the big deal abou teenage pregnecy is most places cant turn down teen moms for jobs and whats the diffrece between a 17 year old getting pregnet or a 20 year old getting pregnet
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Old 10-15-2011, 03:34 PM
 
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A 17 year old is a minor. There is a lot of things they cannot (or should not) do, which would impact their suitability for a job.
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Old 10-15-2011, 03:37 PM
 
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Is this a serious question?

I hope not, but I'll bite anyway. A 17 yo is still in high school, still a minor, still living with mom and dad, and most likely not with "Mr forever."

A 20 yo, while still young, is a legal adult, hopefully a HS graduate, maybe 1/2 way through college, or done with a 2 year degree, hopefully gainfully employed, and has a slightly higher chance of being with "Mr Forever."

Are you, by chance, a pregnant 17 yo?
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Old 10-15-2011, 03:41 PM
 
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Is this a serious question?

I hope not, but I'll bite anyway. A 17 yo is still in high school, still a minor, still living with mom and dad, and most likely not with "Mr forever."

A 20 yo, while still young, is a legal adult, hopefully a HS graduate, maybe 1/2 way through college, or done with a 2 year degree, hopefully gainfully employed, and has a slightly higher chance of being with "Mr Forever."

Are you, by chance, a pregnant 17 yo?
im not but a bunch of my freinds are
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Old 10-15-2011, 04:00 PM
 
Location: Connecticut
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My friend's 16 y/o daughter had a baby. Here is my 2 cents from listening to my friend:

She (daughter) cannot get a job in many places around them, mostly because if they serve alcohol of any kind, being a minor she cannot work there. I don't remember the exact rules about it, but it's along those lines.

The baby's father is her age and all they do is bicker. Yes, many people do that, but they are typical teens dating bickering, not parents bickering. Immature teen stuff that a child (almost 1 y/o) should not be subject to (and yes it happens with NON teen parents, but hopefully you know what I mean - it's more or less the typical teenage drama stuff. I feel I am not wording it correctly).

Due to the mom not being able to get a job and the father being far from helpful (another issue which is not my business to stick my nose in), the financial burden falls on my friend and her husband. They foot ALL bills for the baby (in addition, of course, to the baby's mom and their 5 y/o daughter) and they make too much money to get any assistance.

The teen mom wants her teenage time - hanging with friends, sleeping in late, etc. She lets some care for her daughter fall on her parents shoulders so she can do this. Yes, her parents allow it, but it's unfair to them.

So when someone asks "what's the big deal with teens having babies", this is what I think of.
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Old 10-15-2011, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Alabama
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Nothing wrong with it. Being pregnant at 17 is no different from being pregnant at 20 or older. I had two abortions already and regret it everyday. I am a supporter of teen moms, those who act responsibly and make an effort to take care of her child. You are not any less of a mother who is 25 or older be proud and count your blessings.

God bless~
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Old 10-15-2011, 04:12 PM
 
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Nothing wrong with it. Being pregnant at 17 is no different from being pregnant at 20 or older. I had two abortions already and regret it everyday. I am a supporter of teen moms, those who act responsibly and make an effort to take care of her child. You are not any less of a mother who is 25 or older be proud and count your blessings.

God bless~
Why did you have these abortions in the first place?
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Old 10-15-2011, 04:15 PM
 
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At 17 and younger, you're just a minor and most likely, you're not financially secure enough to support a baby. Oftentimes teen fathers become deadbeat dads and give little to no support in helping to raise that child. Plus, the majority of babies born to teen parents are born out of wedlock.

Agewise, later on in life, it'd be better because you're close in age, so you may relate or get along with your kids better.

So, there are pros and cons of having children in your teens.

However, everyone is different. Some people are ready to be parents at 18 and some aren't until their 30s. I know teenagers who make better parents than parents who had children in their 30s. I'd like to have a child now, but I can't afford to raise a family, I don't have a place to live nor am I married yet. But if it were the unusual case where I had everything I needed, I would probably be having a child soon or I might have had one already.

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Old 10-15-2011, 04:23 PM
 
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Why did you have these abortions in the first place?
That seems a little personal...


Anyways, regarding the OP,
My sister got pregnant and ended up having a miscarriage.
The guy she was with, she eventually broke up with because he was an idiot (IMO) but kind of a bum and a jerk, and quit his first job because he didn't like it.

In HS, many may not understand what it takes to raise a baby, get married and keep the relationship stable, or to live on their own, literally, or financially.

And where would the teenager keep the child while she worked? The husband could easily work all day and come home at night but I doubt a HS student makes enough to feed 3 people and a house with.

College education-- how would they get it? It's tough finding a job alone, but finding one to feed a family with, without college education...
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Old 10-15-2011, 04:24 PM
 
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OK so i dont understand what the big deal abou teenage pregnecy is most places cant turn down teen moms for jobs and whats the diffrece between a 17 year old getting pregnet or a 20 year old getting pregnet
I do not mean to be cruel. But, if the level of writing you show here is indicative of your pregnant friends, the possible offspring do not stand much of a chance.

This is how it should read ( allowing for teenage-speak):

"Ok, so I don't understand what the big deal is with teenage pregnancy. Most places can't turn down teen moms for jobs, so what is the difference between a 17 year old getting pregnant and a 20 year old doing so?"

Now, to answer your question, a company can turn down anybody they choose. Nobody has a right to be hired, regardless of their age, unless they can prove age discrimination. That still won't get them hired, but might net them a payout. However, age discrimination is usually reserved for the older work-seeker.

Now, how is a teenage mother supposed to provide support for her child, and complete her education? Frankly, your spelling and grammar is horrific. I am not a snob, just a parent worried about a poorly educated child looking for validation of her choices. You need to stay in school, and bring yourself up to a level that might allow you to get a job beyond minimum wage. Only then should you even consider having a baby.
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