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This isn't exactly a parenting question but I couldn't find a better section to ask this in...
I learned a few months ago that an old best friend of mine (from about 2 years ago) is expecting her first child. Nothing bad happened between us, we simply drifted apart because of relationships, jobs, etc. Upon hearing of her pregnancy, I contacted her to congratulate her and expressed my interest of keeping in touch more often and she agreed and said she'd call me for the baby shower. I heard from her again today and we talked for a very long time. She kept mentioning details of the upcoming baby shower, but never extended an invitation to me.
Should I have said something? Should I still send a card and gift when the baby is born, or should I take this as a sign that I'm not really wanted in her life?
I wouldn't say anything - it does seem odd that she would mention the shower knowing you weren't invited. It could just be a mix up. Since she is not the host of the shower, it really isn't her place to have invited you over the phone....Maybe this shower is for a specific group (ie work friends etc). If she didn't want you in her life then she most likely wouldn't have participated in a long conversation. I would send a gift/card when the baby is born and kind of take things from there.
maybe she sent out your invite and you havent recieved it yet. the gift part is up to you. i sometimes send out gifts without being invited, depending on how i feel about the person
Since she talked so much about the babyshower, I would think you are invited and that an invitation is coming in the post, unless the person doing the organising maybe forgot you! Do you know what date the babyshower is? If it is soon, I'd maybe ring the friend and say something like that you must have misslaid the directions to where it is and could she send it on to you or something, see how she reacts. If the babyshower is a while away, the invitations may simply not have been done yet.
Maybe the invites have not gone out yet...Maybe it is a small baby shower with close family only. It is really not her place to extend the invite to you. It is the person throwing the shower. She needs to inform them that she would like you there...
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