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My s/o can be like that at times. He's getting much better, but what I usually do is just be completely silent while he rants, and when he's done, I remain silent. Then he'll say "oh so you don't have anything to say??" or "helloooo???" and I'll just say something like "I'm here." And don't let him say "finish what you were going to say." Oooooooh honey!!! It would be on and popping then! LOL! I usually reply "I have no idea what I was going to say, but it must not have been nearly as important as what you had to say." And from then on, he gets the silent treatment.
I have a coworker who talks over the top of people CONSTANTLY. And if, by chance, you do get the opportunity to wedge a word in, here or there, she's pretty blatant about the fact that she's patiently waiting for you to shut your mouth so she can have the floor again. It's hurt her professionally...she gets avoided socially, as well, within a work context, because she's such a poor listener and such a floor hog.
I know that she's been spoken to regarding it, but she seems to genuinely believe that nobody has anything worth contributing other than here, so it doesn't much change things.
Walk away from people like that. They are not interested in having conversations. They are only interested in having monologs.
There is only one way to have a relationship with anyone, whether it is a spouse, love interest, friend, employer, or anybody else. And that is from a position of mutual respect. If a person has no interest in what you're trying to say and tries to dominate you by talking over you, then this is not a person you really want in your life.
You just have to very fast. I don't mean one of those people who take 1 minute to get a simple sentence out! If someone talks at a fast pace...talk back at the same pace or speed. If they use a lot of...... but...but..and then....and then....and then...um....um....um..ah...ah... Hell, you know what I mean. I ain't got all day.... my cloths are going out of style here! LOL
I work with two people (both females, and both friends as well) who do this. They are not boorish people, just horribly poor listeners. The rest of us complain about it, but that's their personality, and I have to always remind myself of it. It is VERY frustrating when you try to have a discussion and can't really say anything because they talk right over you.
However, I absolutely could not ~ never ~ EVER! ~ tolerate this in a mate! I'm one of those who despises being interrupted.
Generally, people who monopolize conversations are the biggest bores on earth.
I have known people who won't shut up, but I don't know them long. I completely avoid them or ignore them. Life's too short to be infringed upon by loud mouths like this.
My mother has a boyfriend like that. Just babbles on incessantly. Never. Shuts. Up.
It's sad to me. Because I feel as if I can never have another conversation with my mother as long as he is alive.
That is sad. Can't you see/talk to your mother when he's not around?
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I don't mean one of those people who take 1 minute to get a simple sentence out!
If someone talks at a fast pace...talk back at the same pace or speed. If they use a lot of...... but...but..and then....and then....and then...um....um....um..ah...ah... Hell, you know what I mean.
