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I am one of those people that other people tend to talk over. I don't know why. If there's a group of people, I often get talked down. Am I too soft spoken? Take too long to get to the point? I don't know. My mom has even apologized to me about it, and has said she doesn't know why she does it. But my mom isn't the only person who does.
Probably one of the reasons I like forums so much. I get to finish a sentence. LOL
I am one of those people that other people tend to talk over. I don't know why. If there's a group of people, I often get talked down. Am I too soft spoken? Take too long to get to the point? I don't know. My mom has even apologized to me about it, and has said she doesn't know why she does it. But my mom isn't the only person who does.
Probably one of the reasons I like forums so much. I get to finish a sentence. LOL
I was like you many years ago. But I remember my dad saying that I was a loud kid and tended to yell. So I found my voice again and if/when someone talks over me, or down to me, I go full throttle RPM on them.
Many a head has turned from my yelling. I've been told constantly to "take it down".
This sounds like a blessing, all things considered.
It could be but she gets an attitude. She sits right next to me so it feels like a hostile environment. She doesn't even say good morning when she gets like that. To keep things normal, I just let her ramble on, say "yeah" or "i know" and then go back to my work.
I was like you many years ago. But I remember my dad saying that I was a loud kid and tended to yell. So I found my voice again and if/when someone talks over me, or down to me, I go full throttle RPM on them.
Many a head has turned from my yelling. I've been told constantly to "take it down".
Interesting. So you simply turn up the volume, while remaining calm, and in conversation mode? I'd like to see how that goes.
It could be but she gets an attitude. She sits right next to me so it feels like a hostile environment. She doesn't even say good morning when she gets like that. To keep things normal, I just let her ramble on, say "yeah" or "i know" and then go back to my work.
So, let her sit with her attitude. She's the one who has to live with herself. You can just go on with your work, unless you two have to collaborate on projects, or something. Let her stew in her own juices.
I love him, but he doesnt see that he is doing it, and/ or he has said before that when people interrupt him he doesn't get mad about it. Although if someone interrupted him EVERY time he tried to say something and was never able to get his side heard, I can guarantee he would definitely see it as an issue that needs resolving and knowing him he would demand it be done immediately no ands ifs or buts.... how can i get him to understand without becoming manipulative
I am in the same situation. He yells so much that spit flies out of his mouth, I try to diffuse the situation as I don't like confrontations especially if it turns into a screaming match. Last night for instance I made a comment about why a company would put 'special instructions' if they don't honor them or explain why they couldn't. I asked the pharmacy to put my meds in a bottle vice blister pack as they are annoying to open and BAM!! he started yelling like a mad man.. saying well you bought me papers (yes rolling papers) that he didn't like to use as they were difficult so I said, "I know that so I told you I wouldn't get them again that I would get you the right ones and then in the midst of nowhere he yelled F**&^Off. He has never sworn at me before and to me that is like someone spitting in my face.. I said, out of anger, you want me to F*&*^Off, don't worry I will and what he said next was even worse.. GOOD! he said.. we have been married for 10 years and he always yells and cuts me off, never lets me get my point across. Am I the one who needs help? sometimes I wonder then doing research I see that maybe it is him but I can't bring it up. He never admits he is wrong and has never apologized.. Why am I still there? I honestly am not sure.. maybe I am not able to be alone.. I don't know..
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I am in the same situation. He yells so much that spit flies out of his mouth, I try to diffuse the situation as I don't like confrontations especially if it turns into a screaming match. Last night for instance I made a comment about why a company would put 'special instructions' if they don't honor them or explain why they couldn't. I asked the pharmacy to put my meds in a bottle vice blister pack as they are annoying to open and BAM!! he started yelling like a mad man.. saying well you bought me papers (yes rolling papers) that he didn't like to use as they were difficult so I said, "I know that so I told you I wouldn't get them again that I would get you the right ones and then in the midst of nowhere he yelled F**&^Off. He has never sworn at me before and to me that is like someone spitting in my face.. I said, out of anger, you want me to F*&*^Off, don't worry I will and what he said next was even worse.. GOOD! he said.. we have been married for 10 years and he always yells and cuts me off, never lets me get my point across. Am I the one who needs help? sometimes I wonder then doing research I see that maybe it is him but I can't bring it up. He never admits he is wrong and has never apologized.. Why am I still there? I honestly am not sure.. maybe I am not able to be alone.. I don't know..
Well, this is not just not letting you speak. There is some major anger issue here with your husband.
I would just walk off every time and not deal with it.
I have about 3 people in my life who are like this. Most recently, it was my brother, who interrupted me several times over a long holiday weekend. Finally, I would just very calmly say "I'd like to finish my thought." or "I wasn't done with my sentence." etc. Every time I spoke up, he apologized, and was genuinely sorry. (Doesn't necessarily mean he'll never do it again though. LOL)
I'm not inclined to cut these people out of my life, but I don't have a problem letting them know what they're doing.
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