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I find that hard to believe. Could there be some disorder that causes this?
My opinion, for what it is worth, is that you would show a lot of personality, when among the right people.
I'm at my best with people of ideas. People who's main interest is the accumulation of things or gossip about people they barely know, would likely say that I and people I enjoy associating with have no personality but they would be wrong. People often say that about others who they have difficulty mingling with.
By how many people? I'd say get some new friends. Or enemies. Some people are just mean.
But, just for entertainment purposes, I'll describe one of my ex's old co-workers. He was handsome--looked like a Ken doll as my ex described him. When ex tried to engage him in conversation, he could find absolutely no topic that the man was interested in. He didn't like movies, music, food, hobbies, entertainment of any kind. He wasn't interested in the job, and had no sense of humor--all jokes went completely over his head. He was like an automaton. He brought the same peanut butter and jelly sandwich and red delicious apple for lunch every day and had no vices. One day the ex got exasperated and said, "Well what do you like to do then? I've asked you about nearly everything!" The man didn't even get offended, but he thought for a minute and then said, "I like to mow the lawn." !!
We all see others based on one's likes and dislikes, from childhood. It means that what one "perceives" of others is much a projection of oneself, like when ones looks in a mirror. Your personality as seen by the person who told you about it, could very well be one that he or she ID's because that's what he or she has experienced in life. In other words, his or her own personality
Just relax and don't let that get to you. Like others have told you, mingle with other type of people.
But on a serious note, you probably do have a personality but perhaps you feel safer bringing it out around certain people. My friend for example has been told by the men she'd dated who have abused her physically/emotionally/ (o how funny she just texted me, nice synch!!) that she's dull. When she's around me however she's witty, uses hilarious american expressions, and is a storyteller. Around her men however she probably shrinks into someone she thinks they want her to be and she's not being her authentic self. So surround yourself with positive people you can be yourself around who complement your great qualities. Just a thought.
i think people that people say have no personality usually haven't been socialized as a kid. They kept to themselves or had no friends during their childhood and as adults usually dont have anyfriends. They tend to feel alienated and different and wish they could show their true self instead of feeling anxiety in social situations.
Tweety, its important to accept yourself for who you are. Id suggest you to make friendships with older people. They aren't as callous and tend to be more appreciative of people who aren't like hyper monkeys (aka people with "personality"). Or make friends with new comers, they are more likely to be friendly so as to make new friends.
Could you tell me a little more about yourself, like your likes and dislikes? What is something you are good at?
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