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I've thought about this before. I can't think of a single person I knew in high school who is very different now. Besides their personalities remaining relatively unchanged, they even mostly like the same things, have the same religious and political beliefs, etc. If they've changed much it's certainly not noticeable. As for me, my religious and political beliefs, my general outlook on life in fact, has changed drastically since high school. Practically 180 degrees, in fact. However, my actual personality really is similar to what it was back then. I guess in that way I've changed very little.
I've thought about this before. I can't think of a single person I knew in high school who is very different now. Besides their personalities remaining relatively unchanged, they even mostly like the same things,
However, my actual personality really is similar to what it was back then. I guess in that way I've changed very little.
Right, matured in many ways such as making choices about religion, politics, line of work, etc. but your basic "style" is unchanged. I bring this up because (1) I either read it or heard it, and (2) I went to my 20 year reunion at a coed Catholic H.S. in Southern California and there was NO change among anybody, except that a few people were a little "mellower" with age. There is absolutely no reason to go to another one!
I have heard this statistic. The one that says 85% of your personality and self-esteem are determined by the time you finish high school. I see it in my friends. They are just grown-up versions of what I knew in high school or college. Their responses to things, situations and crises are as predictable as when they were 18. Went to my 20-year high school reunion. No changes, except that some were a little humbled by having life kick them in the a$$.
What's your thought? Do you have any examples or opinions on this?
Don't believe it for a second. In fact, I'd argue the opposite point. I don't believe people are fully formed in terms of personality, opinions, tastes, etc., until they are well into their mid-20s.
Don't believe it for a second. In fact, I'd argue the opposite point. I don't believe people are fully formed in terms of personality, opinions, tastes, etc., until they are well into their mid-20s.
I would say that age is just when it starts. Then you may be enriched by further schooling, travel and workplace experience etc.
I was very shy and insecure in highschool. I am VERY outgoing now, and have very few insecurities. I'm a wear my idiosyncrasies on my sleeve kinda person now.
Don't believe it for a second. In fact, I'd argue the opposite point. I don't believe people are fully formed in terms of personality, opinions, tastes, etc., until they are well into their mid-20s.
I'm not saying it's cast in stone. I'm saying I have observed this in many kids I grew up with...and that roles or status issues continue MANY times. One of the things they've studied in the management/organizational psychology section of B-schools is the profiling of those who run companies (no thanks, keep the money and fame) and the profiles have a great deal of consistency.
True, I continued to mature during my 20s, moving across the country at 27...yet, at 24, I was freaked out driving a rental car in Manhattan traffic, after driving on LA's wide boulevards with protected left turn lanes and quiet tree-lined suburban streets for 8 years.
My point is about interaction styles, roles, pecking order, etc. I am not talking about a stunting of the maturation process. But, then, what do I know...seeing your post-to-rep ratio!
I was very shy and insecure in highschool. I am VERY outgoing now, and have very few insecurities. I'm a wear my idiosyncrasies on my sleeve kinda person now.
I have heard this statistic. The one that says 85% of your self-esteem are determined by the time you finish high school.
What's your thought? Do you have any examples or opinions on this?
This is unfortunately probably true. For young men who have the best attributes for marriage - forward thinking, working to get educated, exhibit self control, delay immediate gratification, friendly and tolerant of others foibles, etc. - the school system has usually destroyed much of their self esteem and it can take a long time to mend.
I've thought about this before. I can't think of a single person I knew in high school who is very different now. Besides their personalities remaining relatively unchanged, they even mostly like the same things, have the same religious and political beliefs, etc. If they've changed much it's certainly not noticeable. As for me, my religious and political beliefs, my general outlook on life in fact, has changed drastically since high school. Practically 180 degrees, in fact. However, my actual personality really is similar to what it was back then. I guess in that way I've changed very little.
Intelligent people who work at developing new interests and get an education can change a lot. This doesn't describe 99% of those in public school today.
Generally, if at age 15, they liked beer, professional sports on TV, certain music and low brow entertainment, at age 40, this will still describe them.
Fortunately for such men, there are a lot of girls who think this is just what they want. All they ask is that these guys don't waste time in school.
My point is about interaction styles, roles, pecking order, etc. I am not talking about a stunting of the maturation process. But, then, what do I know...seeing your post-to-rep ratio!
I thought you were just talking about personality - not roles, pecking order, and all that crap. Who pays attention to that once you grow up? I might have cared about that stuff in middle school - but I certainly don't pay attention to any of that now.
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