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If that's true, I'm doomed! I was such a mess when I was 18 years old! I like to think I've improved a little since then. I agree about high school reunions, though. I haven't gone to one in a long time, but the last one featured the same cliques, etc. Nah, no thanks. I was happy to get away from those people; I'd prefer not to see them now! As you can probably tell, middle school and high school were very lonely and difficult times for me. I was picked on and made fun of a lot. The only benefit is that now I couldn't care less what people think of me.
I agree about high school reunions, though. I haven't gone to one in a long time, but the last one featured the same cliques, etc. Nah, no thanks. I was happy to get away from those people; I'd prefer not to see them now!
That's sort of what I meant. No change. Someone from one clique wasn't going to go over to someone from another clique and say "How's it going? What are you doing now?" That is one example of a LACK of change.
That's sort of what I meant. No change. Someone from one clique wasn't going to go over to someone from another clique and say "How's it going? What are you doing now?" That is one example of a LACK of change.
But if they weren't friends in high school - why would they be friends now after not seeing each other for 20 years? I've never been to one of my reunions - I live across the country from where I went to high school - but if I did go to one, I'd probably want to spend time with the people I was friends with back in high school - not the people I didn't hang out with.
I have heard this statistic. The one that says 85% of your personality and self-esteem are determined by the time you finish high school. I see it in my friends. They are just grown-up versions of what I knew in high school or college. Their responses to things, situations and crises are as predictable as when they were 18. Went to my 20-year high school reunion. No changes, except that some were a little humbled by having life kick them in the a$$.
What's your thought? Do you have any examples or opinions on this?
This sounds like it's somewhat accurate and I never heard of this theory before. But I agree with the person that said personality probably formed more around ages 7 to 9, because I do remember hearing that one. Shame for some people; early life experiences drastically alter whatever personality they were starting to have, into something else entirely. Oh well, nothing they can do about it now. Water under the bridge.
I believe most people don't change their personality that much from the age of 5 onwards. Many things about them change (their outlook, values, perceptions), but their basic personality? I think that's pretty much set at a very young age.
As for people having 85% of their self-esteem set when they leave High School? There would be a huge exception to this. Many people who are nerdy or not good-looking in HS are bullied or traunted. Some of them blossum after they leave HS and turn into non-nerds and beautiful-looking people. All of us have probably known a few people like this. Those types will definitely have their self-esteem bolstered when they finally bloom.
I believe most people don't change their personality that much from the age of 5 onwards. Many things about them change (their outlook, values, perceptions), but their basic personality? I think that's pretty much set at a very young age.
As for people having 85% of their self-esteem set when they leave High School? There would be a huge exception to this. Many people who are nerdy or not good-looking in HS are bullied or traunted. Some of them blossum after they leave HS and turn into non-nerds and beautiful-looking people. All of us have probably known a few people like this. Those types will definitely have their self-esteem bolstered when they finally bloom.
I'd actually venture to say that the majority of people experience a boom in self esteem AFTER high school. The teenage years are pretty insecure times for most people - even those that seem to have it all.
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I was such a mess when I was 18 years old! I like to think I've improved a little since then. I agree about high school reunions, though. I haven't gone to one in a long time, but the last one featured the same cliques, etc. Nah, no thanks. I was happy to get away from those people; I'd prefer not to see them now! As you can probably tell, middle school and high school were very lonely and difficult times for me. I was picked on and made fun of a lot. The only benefit is that now I couldn't care less what people think of me. 
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