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I do think it's kind of rude, and in bad taste, but it doesn't really bother me. If someone is so jealous over something I've done, then let them be jealous. I always say something like, "that's great news, I'm so happy for you! It's so fortunate that (blank) happened."
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It's kind of annoying if it becomes a habit, or if that's the only response a person has when they hear about something good that has happened to someone else. There's seldom any real spite in it, and I doubt they truly feel hate for the person, it's generally just a way of expressing their envy. I think it's something a lot of women do in particular, even among their friends, and could even be interpreted as a sort of veiled compliment. It also seems to be a 'memetic thing', by that I mean it's become ingrained in the common 'female mode of thinking' that people say things like this without a second thought.
sounds immature...and that's what envy is, a childish egotistical emotion,..why noy just you're happy for the person or don't say anything if it bothers you or if the good fortune of someone else bothers you..
is a silly jealous reaction and not nice.. but far better than the two faced ones who are simmering with bitterness with what others have.. and cant have. sad.
Believe me, I'm as sarcastic as they come. I totally "get" if two people are close and they say "I hate you" or "f*ck you" in an endearing way. I'm completely with you on that.
Saying "I hate you" in a sarcastic tone is one thing. To go as far as saying "F-you" is NOT endearing in any way. It's downright crude and extremely juvenile speech for grown women and men to be talking to one another like that. Someone should re-examine their circle friends if that is the kind of way they express their feelings.
Ugh, I was responding to the other person's example of the "F you." It's not my thing either, but I have heard guys who were close buddies joke around and say it in jest.
That's one of those things where it really depends on the tone of voice. Sometimes my friends even say "f_ck you" in an affectionate, humorous way. I can't really think of an example that doesn't include an inside joke between my friends but the point is it's meant in a light-hearted way. Of course even the most "polite" words can be used in a sarcastic or disdainful way too, so it's not always about what is said but how it is said. I think this is one of those examples.
I know that. I wasn't directing it to you but was responding in conjunct with you saying those kinds of words were endearing. I'm sorry but there is nothing endearing about those words.
To me, No. To you, No. But to some, like chimpsky and some people I know, it can be said and received in an "endearing" way. Think of a couple of "manly" guys who can't express affection--they might make good-natured jabs at each other in lieu of saying "I love you, man."
My joke about my Dad and guys he knows in his generation was: "Are you still driving that piece of sh*t?" translates to "you're the best friend a guy could have and I love you, but I'm intensely afraid or sounding gay or girly."
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