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Old 08-31-2012, 06:29 PM
 
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I was reading a book recently about trying to be positive about your life and liking yourself. One thing it recommended is to keep telling yourself "I love myself."

The question is, do you believe a person can get out of a negative state about themselves if they repeat something like this and try to only think positive things about themselves?
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Old 08-31-2012, 07:05 PM
 
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So far as self-image, a lot of other things can come into play.

For example if a person is not realistic about their work abilities and has a job they can't do, then there is going to be daily frustration. Say someone who knows nothing about being a medical doctor gets a job doing that (extreme example). Then the person's patients die and overdose from too much of drugs prescribed or their illnesses get terribly worse because the wrong drugs are prescribed, etc.

Well that person is never going to feel good about themselves so long as they have that job!

But say that person is very good at working with the public and gets a job in retail. Then everyday will be a day of successes.

Or say someone constantly spends more money than they can afford for things. Daily frustration! But live within their means, then suddenly a LOT of problems go away.

So are there other causes for the negativity? If yes, then fix those first. Then tell yourself "Good Job!" and go celebrate!

Also if a person is around another who is constantly saying negative things, then a bit of self-positive thinking about yourself can counteract that. (I would not hang around that person much if possible - fix the cause.)
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Old 09-01-2012, 07:21 PM
 
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I was reading a book recently about trying to be positive about your life and liking yourself. One thing it recommended is to keep telling yourself "I love myself."

The question is, do you believe a person can get out of a negative state about themselves if they repeat something like this and try to only think positive things about themselves?
If it's used along with other techniques, it can help.

One of the central tenets of cognitive behavior therapy is that we constantly engage in self-talk based on what we perceive around us as we go through our days. If your self-talk is negative, it primes you to look at ambiguous things negatively, and over time that can lead to depression.

OK, repeating "I love myself" is hokey. But trying to find qualities you have that you genuinely like is about changing the focus of your self-talk. By creating a habit of finding things about yourself you like, you prime yourself to focus on positive things. And again, over time, that positive bias can change your viewpoint and raise your general mood.
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Old 09-02-2012, 03:18 AM
 
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Old 09-02-2012, 05:21 AM
 
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I was reading a book recently about trying to be positive about your life and liking yourself. One thing it recommended is to keep telling yourself "I love myself."

The question is, do you believe a person can get out of a negative state about themselves if they repeat something like this and try to only think positive things about themselves?
No, it lacks balance, which is necessary to a realistic view.

Therefore, I would suggest alternating this with "Get over it, meatball."
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Old 09-02-2012, 09:04 AM
 
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I was reading a book recently about trying to be positive about your life and liking yourself. One thing it recommended is to keep telling yourself "I love myself."

The question is, do you believe a person can get out of a negative state about themselves if they repeat something like this and try to only think positive things about themselves?
perhaps , some people are better at convincing themselves of stuff that may not be true
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Old 09-02-2012, 09:53 AM
 
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I was reading a book recently about trying to be positive about your life and liking yourself. One thing it recommended is to keep telling yourself "I love myself."

The question is, do you believe a person can get out of a negative state about themselves if they repeat something like this and try to only think positive things about themselves?
Actually, DH sent me the article not long ago, that basically revealed that telling yourself something that is not true causes adverse effects.

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/05/op...-thinking.html

On the other hand, the Buddhist teachings that I've read have the common theme that self-acceptance is fundamental to lack of suffering. One must first learn compassion for oneself before one can practice compassion toward another.

I think the basic key, IMO, is to learn to know ourselves in a positive way, and if there is something we do not like about ourselves, find a way to either change it, or learn to like it, so when we tell ourselves we love us, it is true.
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Old 09-02-2012, 01:49 PM
 
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Sounds like a crock.
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Old 09-03-2012, 12:01 AM
 
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"Poor is the man, that believes his own lie"
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Old 09-03-2012, 01:30 AM
 
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it's a bunch of worthless garbage; usually touted by people who don't even need it in the first place.
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