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There's a difference between being lonely and being alone.
When you are lonely you are sad because you are missing someone. Someone is not there with you that you wish would there by your side. Sadness and depression are symptoms that accompany loneliness.
Being alone means that you are ok being by yourself. It means that you are comfortable with just yourself and no one else need be there.
Being alone in a crowd can be a reminder of what loneliness is. It is a subtle reminder that even though there are all those people around, they are still strangers and not a substitute for someone that we would consider special, and sadness and even depression can occur there.
Have I? All the time. Nothing would make me happier actually. If I had the money, I would do it today. I feel like a caged animal around other people, continually suffocated. I need to leave Florida to find what I'm looking for. I struggle to find truly remote places here without seeing or hearing a group of *******s nearby.
I fell the same way. I spent all my life living in a semi-rural area with a couple of acers for a back yard, and with woods and trails not to far off. You could do your own thing and not worry to much about bothering people. Now that I'm married I moved in with my wife in surburbia hell. Our back yard is almost completly cement and a garage. The only thing really dividing property are the driveways in between. Some of the animals here make you frightfully to go into certian areas after dark. I need to get back to my roots
Psychological profession invented hundreds of disorders to expedite milking of the anxious public, the only disorder remaining to be discovered is "normal personality disorder". Check schizoid personality disorder, for example.
I do believe there are different types of loneliness. If you don't need somebody for the sake of entertainment, it is one thing, if you don't need someone who understand your need to surround yourself and connect with nature, for example, it is quite another. If one doesn't feel need to "emotionally" connect with "someone who understand or even share who he is" that's is something that most likely is described by one disorder or another.
I think its like anything ;out of site and out of mind. Your only lonely when you see others who fit in and are not loners.
^Makes sense to me. Boldfaced the first line, which pinpoints the cause-and-effect, stimulus-response, basic theme (it would seem) of OP's description/observation.
Wishing the OP good fortune in someday being able to rural area that better suits the individual's need for solitude & immersion in nature.
Sometimes it happens but; not really. I'm single as well and i don't really find myself down as much anymore. But maybe the problem is that when you see a happy couple together or just a couple in general you realize how much better that person is off with another person. I guess look for someone yourself? it might atleast please you in some ways; sorry if it didn't help have a lovely day!
^Makes sense to me. Boldfaced the first line, which pinpoints the cause-and-effect, stimulus-response, basic theme (it would seem) of OP's description/observation.
Wishing the OP good fortune in someday being able to rural area that better suits the individual's need for solitude & immersion in nature.
I've always been a loner but it stems primarily from moving around a lot as a kid. And while extroverted, I'm married to an introvert and many of his qualities have been transferred to me. This means that we really enjoy being alone, but together. We also search for the solitude and immersion in nature.
The OP sounds perfectly normal to me. I remember in college, perhaps sitting under a tree waiting for my next class, and watching all the students and faculty...busy little beavers...wondering how I could feel so alone while sitting in a busy, thriving environment. Was it that I wanted to belong? That's probably part of it...but what I found was that when I tried to be a part of it, I felt woefully out of place.
The place I'd find real solace and peace was at home. I'm lucky to have found someone who feels the same way. Of course, we live in a very busy city (Dallas) and I constantly dream of being in the woods, or the mountains, or wherever else where theres just nature sounds. No people, no honking, no demanding, no intrusions, no expectations, no nonsense. I didn't realize people out there really felt like they were lonely in crowds but I think I've felt this my whole life.
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