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I, too, use TracySam's definition of introversion: time with others depletes me, while time alone fills me up. And in that case, I am certainly an introvert. I have, however, no problem meeting new people, holding a conversation at a social event, doing public speaking, or even doing sales work, so I don't believe I would ever be classified as "shy." Not to say though that I LIKE to do those things. I don't usually. Having thought about this quite a bit, I've come to the conclusion that a person can have highly developed communication skills without an accompanying personality that ensures they are enjoyed.
Haha, I can get with this to a point. I do think as introverts we have to be balanced and strive for the good and to quinch our weaknesses. I think one of our biggest weaknesses is selfishness. I know it's mine. I'd rather go home, catch up on "Breaking Bad" and/or play Madden until I'm ready to go to bed or etc., but the truth is, I have to be giving to other people. If everyone was as selfish and into themselves as I want to be or tended to be then this world would be crazy crappy. I hear what you're saying, I definitely feel you have to set boundaries, I just think it has to be within reason and not to a point when my defining characteristic is me just doing me...that's not love IMO.
I hear you loud and clear, and do not take offense to what you say....you gave me some good food for thought...and yes, I know I'm selfish in many ways...b/c I've been alone for about 16 -18 years and have grown accustomed to pleasing myself.
I hear you loud and clear, and do not take offense to what you say....you gave me some good food for thought...and yes, I know I'm selfish in many ways...b/c I've been alone for about 16 -18 years and have grown accustomed to pleasing myself.
Thank you
Wow some objectivity on this! Thanks homie! It's hard on us out here!!! I also realized that it explains why my change in frame of mind can come off "moody" to people. I realized it's not that I'm in a bad mood, just a different mood, I'm a little exhausted by all the talking and etc., and I'm starting to get introspective and etc., took me a while to figure that one out, I was like, "I'm not moody!!!!!"I learned that once I started not paying attention to what people are saying, having them repeat themselves because I'm daydreaming, or I feel like I'm done talking, it's probably best I get away and rejuvenate. Cheers!
I am certainly an introvert. I have, however, no problem meeting new people, holding a conversation at a social event, doing public speaking, or even doing sales work, so I don't believe I would ever be classified as "shy." Not to say though that I LIKE to do those things. I don't usually. Having thought about this quite a bit, I've come to the conclusion that a person can have highly developed communication skills without an accompanying personality that ensures they are enjoyed.
Man, that's deep. I feel this way about myself. I don't like speaking in public and I've had more sales jobs than any other job and was good at it. At my current job, I'm not seen as an introvert at all because I've been here so long that I'm comfortable talking to people and have an important position in which I have to communicate a lot but you hit it on the nail, I'm a great communicator but not in love with doing so, well unless it's via writing. Nice post!
I started this thread because the best people I know are smart, socially capable enough, have a dry sense of humor, and tend more toward the reserved side. I get tired of the negativity toward introversion manifested on C-D. Half the people in the U.S. would probably test as introverted. Half the people in the U.S. are not hated.
Extroverts are fun, there's no doubt about that, but in limited doses.
I have no problem holding a conversation with someone in an adjacent plane seat or in a coffeehouse, debating with a service adviser at a car dealership, or pushing through a customer service issue to see it resolved. However, I would still consider myself an introvert. Any others like this?
Yes, much the same. When I did Myers - Brigg in college about 2 decades ago, I was ESTJ when I took it a few years back I was ISTJ by slight edge. I wonder if there have been long term studies to see how much 'migration' individuals experience?
Still recall funny experience in high school class. My psych teacher thought I was an extrovert but my friends corrected her. Since I wasn't shy and love to learn, I generally participated in class discussions a lot and didn't care what other students thought. Outside of the various realms of day to day existence I like to think, more than run my mouth but when opportunities present themselves in various arenas for whatever reasons, such as taking auto to dealer for service, I will talk to most everyone from parts dept to billing secretary to sales reps, rather than kill brain cells in the waiting area where some idiot will usually have the TV on some inane morning / daytime show. If or when the situation dictates I can be the life of the party (tho I'm not a 'party seeker' kind). This usually is surprising to people and sometimes disconcerting because they can not 'peg' you easily to some typology i.e. stereotypes prevalent in our over saturated media inculcated society.
I think TracySam's comment summed it up very well. I don't derive 'energy' from others. I can derive 'energy' on my own in quiet solitude / internal games - and sometimes internal dialogue in my head! .
I, too, use TracySam's definition of introversion: time with others depletes me, while time alone fills me up. And in that case, I am certainly an introvert. I have, however, no problem meeting new people, holding a conversation at a social event, doing public speaking, or even doing sales work, so I don't believe I would ever be classified as "shy." Not to say though that I LIKE to do those things. I don't usually. Having thought about this quite a bit, I've come to the conclusion that a person can have highly developed communication skills without an accompanying personality that ensures they are enjoyed.
So true, I've held training positions where I spent lots of time speaking to groups and even doing broadcast format. Public speaking to me was always fun! Sales could or might not be enjoyable depending on the type of sales but meeting people and learning from others life experiences is great. I find I tend to go into a combination of two modes: 'investigative reporter' when I meet people interesting with a rich experience or different life experience than myself or am accustomed too, and congenial diverse old style 'talk show host' to ply and have fun.
I consider social communication activity as separate from any spectrum of intro - extro version. I just tend to not like a lot of extraneous verbalizing with no purpose.
By definition I'm an introvert. I have no interest in having a conversation with anybody except when the conversation will lead to a goal of resolving a problem. I will also talk all day long if it serves a purpose. As soon as a conversation goes circular I stop talking.
Extroverts just want to hear noise coming from their mouths and the context of the conversation having no point. For some reason extroverts have the impression that introverts are slow. But when I look at all the successful people I have known, they are all introverts.
The Myers-Brigs that I have taken several times in my life have always identifies me as the same type. In the description for that type it said that I will appear to other people to be an extrovert when I am actually an introvert.
I am in introvert. Often accused as rude or standoffish. It is ridiculous, people are so quick to jump into conclusions and just label you with some crap. I am no social butterfly and do not consider myself shy ether. Just prefer to do more solitary thing for myself as reading and getting more exercise. Nobody seem to get that. lol
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