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Old 02-14-2013, 09:29 PM
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Hi everyone i will be turning twenty on sunday, and while i am very excited i am also scared out of my mind. It finally hit me today that woah im no longer a teenager, and that i am in my twenties! It is really depressing i just had the biggest reality check that i am no longer a child, or have any sort of childhood left. I am an adult now. Its not that i am not capable of having adult responsibilities i go to school, and hold a job its just extremely scary to me that i feel like the best days of my life are behind me. I will never be able to get my teens back, and it seems as though they flew by so quickly. Did anyone else feel this way when they turned a milestone age such as this? Just curious
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Old 02-14-2013, 09:42 PM
Location: Texas
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19 and 20 were meh for me. there was literally nothing special about them. You didn't gain any legal rights that you didn't already have at 18. 30 scares me much more than 20 ever did. Luckily that's still several years down the road. The last birthday that'll ever have any significant meaning in your life is 21. After that, who really cares.
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Old 02-15-2013, 12:09 AM
Location: Whittier
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Eh, being a teen was fun and all but seriously I'd rather be at the age I am now (31) than any other age before.

I'm way smarter, experienced, wiser and happier at this point in my life. And I expect this to continue as I get older as I still have a lot to learn.

The only thing I do miss is eating a large pizza in a sitting and not gaining any weight.

But I think I thought about things like this when I was turing 20-21, but really my 20's were pretty good and I expect my 30's will be even better.
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Old 02-15-2013, 12:39 AM
Location: Pittman Center, Tennessee
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Age is relative. You'll adjust...enjoy the ride!
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Old 02-15-2013, 12:42 AM
Location: Canada
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I noted it similarly to, but what are you going to do? People age, that's life, and you've just got to move on to the next stage and try to do the best you can with this new stage of life. The worst thing you can do is not embrace it and try to not grow up, that always leads to hardship in my experience.
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Old 02-15-2013, 12:54 AM
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hi whitegiant I was talking about this in another thread. birthdays literally depress me, it just gets worse every year but then again it helps that I am behind.
luckily 20 is not that old. your mental capacity hasn't reached its peak yet and you can get away with being immature because you're still at college age.
unfortunately for me, even though I swear I don't believe my age I already technically passed it...
and it did pass by quickly

so just enjoy the time you have. I think many people don't consider someone an adult til they're 21..others, 25.

be responsible of course but don't be old because I think when people try too hard to grow up, they end up becoming immature in a bad way (esp if they work in big business) in other words the only thing that you have to do is what you're doing now...you're trying to support yourself and of course respect those who deserve respect. everything else should be thrown out the window.

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Old 02-15-2013, 03:33 AM
Location: North Carolina
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You legally became an adult when you turned 18.

But if it makes you feel better, experts say that the final stage of brain development is reached around age 25 so until then, you are still greatly maturing, developing, changing, etc.

Maturation of the Prefrontal Cortex
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Old 02-15-2013, 04:27 AM
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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Worried about being 20? try times three then you 'll have worries
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Old 02-15-2013, 04:45 AM
Location: New England
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I agree with what WindStar said. If you enjoyed your teens, I bet the 20's will be even better.

You bring up milestones. 20 was easy. 30, fine. 40 seemed a little older (still a kid at heart). Not sure what 50 will bring, but mid 40's somehow has sent me for a loop dealing with life.

You'll forget about the number in no time.
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Old 02-15-2013, 06:02 AM
Location: Kansas
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Oh, my! This must be something new. Now, at 58, when I was younger, 40 was the dreaded age. Used to be that people looked forward to becoming an adult and not being a child anymore. I am guessing if you ask older people what the best years of their lives were, you won't get the "teen years". Perhaps, you wanted to grow up to be Peter Pan? Always a child? Do you have any adult plans? Finding a life partner? Children? Maybe moving somewhere else? Traveling? I turned 20 in MI, 21 in AK and on and on. I have two sons, have traveled extensively and had a variety of jobs. I have experienced all sort of weather across the US. So many people, places, etc. to experience and so little time. Life has been great. I look forward to birthdays as milestones. The wisdom you gain with each passing year is priceless. If you develop a serious issue with the aging thing and feel more than a little blue about it, seek counseling.
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