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Old 04-20-2013, 03:41 PM
 
Location: Glasgow Scotland
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Thought you meant OLD like me... in my sixties... not a young thing with the world at her feet...oh to be twenty again.... I was about to answer that pain and illness make older people much more grumpy... I should know but surely not at twenty , you have so much to look forward to..
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Old 04-20-2013, 03:43 PM
 
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I'm nearly 20 and I feel myself growing angrier about everything by the day. Is this normal?

I am 52 and I am not an angry person, I am much less tolerant of some things than I was even 5 years ago but that is a fleeting moment and does not affect me negatively all day or everyday.
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Old 04-20-2013, 03:44 PM
 
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Thought you meant OLD like me... in my sixties... not a young thing with the world at her feet...oh to be twenty again.... I was about to answer that pain and illness make older people much more grumpy... I should know but surely not at twenty , you have so much to look forward to..

I am beyond grateful I cannot be that age again.......yuck, it was more than enough the first time around.
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Old 04-20-2013, 05:14 PM
 
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I remember a 20/20, dateline style show that studied at what age people, in general, were happiest/content. They were proving/dis-proving the "grumpy old men" theory.

What I can recall is no one is angrier than an 14yo boy and w/age we usually become happier/content.

20 is pretty close to 14 in the long run
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Old 04-20-2013, 09:35 PM
 
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Anger is not a primary emotion. The primary, underlying emotion of anger is always fear. Ask yourself what are you afraid of.

I remember that leaving childhood and home was rather scary.
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Old 04-21-2013, 03:48 PM
 
Location: South Hampton Roads
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I'm nearly 20 and I feel myself growing angrier about everything by the day. Is this normal?
birdhearted... here's the technical tall and short of it:

Anger is often deemed a secondary emotion. The PRIMARY emotions under Anger are FEAR and/or PAIN.

So, what is it you are fearing right now and/or who has emotionally hurt you?

Those are the questions you should be asking yourself. Your age doesn't have that much to do with it. Your mental and emotional health does.

Once you answer those two questions above to yourself, then you need to put those feelings into context. If someone hurt you and that's why you're angry, who is this person in relation to you? A mother, father, friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, coworker, etc.

If you are fearful of something, analyze that fear and name it!

I am a huge fan of counseling and I truly believe everyone walking around could use a good counselor. We often don't get it because we either can't afford it, think we can't afford it (check your parents insurance coverage if you are still under it because I'll bet the majority of the cost of counseling is covered under their plan) or there is so much stigma attached to it that we become embarrassed to admit to ourselves and others that we need it.

A good counselor is going to get you thinking and talking which will help them and you pinpoint where your fear or emotional pain is rooted... then begins the work of cleaning up as much psychological muck as you can with the help of your counselor.

Counseling is awesome. Use it and good luck!
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Old 04-21-2013, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Where I'm At
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I think it is going to become the new normal barring a drastic change. I'm 24 and since I have turned 18, things have gotten more up by the day. I cannot see a light at the end of tunnel nor do I believe there will be one.
I laugh every time I hear someone saying "I see light at the end of the tunnel."

I used to tell a coworker that "I see light at the end of the tunnel" because we were both swamped with paperwork, etc., and he would sarcastically reply, "Well if you see light at the end of the tunnel, you need to get your bony arse off the train tracks because that light is another train headed in your direction, you twit! "
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Old 04-21-2013, 04:30 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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It is not "normal" but it sure gets to you. Not getting older. Being tired of idiots, morons, and so on and so on.
I think it's more common for people, as they age, to simply not care about idiots, morons and silliness in the world that doesn't have an apparent tangible impact on the individual's life. People will of course continue to have opinions about things they see or experience, but they'll gradually realize that it just isn't worth getting worked up over stuff outside their control or other inconsequential things.

Anger is not normal at ANY age. Frequent, continuous or festering anger is a symptom of a deeper problem. I agree with others that the underlying emotion is fear and/or pain. Identify the root cause deep down and try to address it.

People who are mentally and emotionally healthy and stable are RARELY angry. They don't get pissed without a damn good reason. Anger is a dangerous emotion for yourself and those around you...and it can have severe repercussions if it surfaces at the wrong time or place.
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Old 04-25-2013, 01:35 PM
 
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I remember a 20/20, dateline style show that studied at what age people, in general, were happiest/content. They were proving/dis-proving the "grumpy old men" theory.
and what age is that?

at 24, i am pretty pissed off right now
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Old 04-26-2013, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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Eventually you realize angry takes a lot of energy and you cannot spare an energy anymore, so you stop bothering with being angry. Either that or you let anger evelop you and then have a heart attack and die.
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