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That is not the case for many people. I traveled all over and got a PhD and was basically unhappy until I finally got married and had a child. Now I can't really go anywhere, but I am still much happier than before. Of course, nothing was forced on me. If your son is already 11 and doesn't even live with you, then you need to stop using that as an excuse and move on with your life. Nothing is stopping you now.
Physically not. How I feel about it has not changed...
You never replied regarding the custody and child support of your son. Does the father have full custody and are you paying child support?
Yes. I gave him the custody because I needed to go back to school. Minimum wage salary would not cut it for me, besides it has improved my son's lifestyle now that i make more $ and can contribute. . I got a two year degree for now. But I don't feel fully satisfied with it though. Would like to go back.
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It isn't your child's fault you did not get the PhD or Travel. My Son in law got his PhD and had two babies born during that time and one with a medical condition that involved major surgery to correct and he still got his PhD in the timeframe he was supposed to without delay.
So, do NOT BLAME a CHILD for YOUR CHOICES to not pursue what you wanted to, it is YOUR FAULT not theirs.
Of course it is my fault. I should have never made those choices . Giving others what they expected of me is the most retarded thing ever. I shot myself in the foot and invested my time into the wrong things.
Maybe I am weird, but... I finished my school with kids. I was a full time student and worked full time - just enough to pay for daycare. We travel a lot including overseas. Do I love to be a mom? I don't know... I hated to be a stay home mom for sure, so I was back at school in less than 2 weeks (after c-section) and in 4 more weeks back at work.
I don't respect complaints like "my child took PhD or traveling from me". You was the one who decided not to get your PhD.
OP, you don't hate a motherhood, you hate your life. You don't have a custody, so go back to school for your PhD.
Thanks for an honest post. I am child free by choice. I never liked kids and never wasted one milesecomd wanting to be burdened with them. Nearly every honest person I know laments having had kids (NOT all-- I said "nearly everyone.") They have to have smoked a joint or be drunk before they admit it, but almost all of them do.
All of you child-free women will know the isolation and pure crap you take from envious, carping women who are tied down to their wailing, screaming, demanding kids.
Be glad you never went down that road. I am.
This is just desperate grasping and there is so little to grasp on to. I feel a bit sorry for this type of child-free.
Maybe I am weird, but... I finished my school with kids. I was a full time student and worked full time - just enough to pay for daycare. We travel a lot including overseas. Do I love to be a mom? I don't know... I hated to be a stay home mom for sure, so I was back at school in less than 2 weeks (after c-section) and in 4 more weeks back at work.
I don't respect complaints like "my child took PhD or traveling from me". You was the one who decided not to get your PhD.
OP, you don't hate a motherhood, you hate your life. You don't have a custody, so go back to school for your PhD.
Well, see when I lived in Ukraine, I was 18 and it was my 3rd semester in college. I was doing really well until my family decided that I had to get marred and move some better place. I was pulled out of college to marry ( I call it to be pimped out) to some freak they arranged me with. With all sorts of guilt trips and harassment from my relatives, I agreed to marry him. According to my ex my family forced him to marry me too... ( poor thing). Then for some f ck sake he brought me over to bum f ck boonies in middle of PA where I hated to be anyways, forced pregnancy to seal the deal after I told him I was not ready to have kids until I knew him better.... Then I found out he was charged with domestic abuse twice and was on probation . All while I was pregnant, on the top of that he was a porn addict. Seriously, I tried my best taking care of the baby, getting my GED and then going to college. But, If I did not marry him, I would have finish my PhD by now and maybe have done the whole thing on my terms instead.
I don't hate my life.... Just the motherhood. Good thing is I am making the best out of the life i have. Just wished things turned a little different .
Last edited by lil_fox13; 05-13-2013 at 01:54 PM..
LOL
I didn't laugh THAT hard for years
LOL LOL LOL
Well, I a not an ace at numbers....I guess the lady meant from the delivery of baby number one, until the delivery of baby number 2. If the total amount is 16 months, it means she got pregnant again 7 months after baby number 1.
By the way, OP, the reasons of your disconfort are just psychological, or is there as well the physical tax of moderhood (weight gain, loose belly, calcium déficits, etc) what makes you feel bad about about it?
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