Must Always Win Fights to Disturbing Degree

[juppiter]

Originally Posted by Sugah Ray

They probably feel the same way about you. Now that we all labeled ourselves "bad apples" what are we gonna do with the label?

You don't know the situation, but that isn't the case at all. Wish that was the case.

[stan4]

Originally Posted by juppiter

What is the disorder for this? Like, to a creepy degree, cannot lose fight.

Mark of immaturity.

[Sugah Ray]

Originally Posted by juppiter

You don't know the situation, but that isn't the case at all. Wish that was the case.

Why are you so sure that they don't feel the same way about you? How do you know these "bad apples" think you are a "good apple?"

Do these bad apples act like they think you are a saint? You are right about me not knowing the situation but chances are that they don't think you are that great either, otherwise they wouldn't feel the need to argue.

I am not saying this to imply that you are a bad person. It is natural to think we are always right. The problem with this thinking though is that most people think they're good, that the rest of the world is bad but the numbers don't add up. If most people think they are good apples where is the disconnect?

[juppiter]

Originally Posted by Sugah Ray

Why are you so sure that they don't feel the same way about you? How do you know these "bad apples" think you are a "good apple?"

Do these bad apples act like they think you are a saint? You are right about me not knowing the situation but chances are that they don't think you are that great either, otherwise they wouldn't feel the need to argue.

I am not saying this to imply that you are a bad person. It is natural to think we are always right. The problem with this thinking though is that most people think they're good, that the rest of the world is bad but the numbers don't add up. If most people think they are good apples where is the disconnect?

The point is, I don't need to be the good apple. I need to be ignored. They need to be the good apple.

[Sugah Ray]

Originally Posted by juppiter

They need to be the good apple.

According to whom? Who is this authority that is dictating what other people should be and why is this authority giving you a break?

[jtur88]

"Lost a lot of fights but it taught me how to lose O.K." -- Billy Joel, "Keeping the Faith".

[doc1]

Originally Posted by juppiter

Personally I just want the person to go ahead and feel like s/he won so I don't have to deal with this person anymore.........

Lol, that's what I taught my son - Let the other person have the last word. Chances are they'll go away.

[dizzybint]

Best to leave the toxic person with their own tug of war..