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I sometimes wonder about these people and I always admire someone who remains nice and cool when it comes to dealing with people who are mean and cruel to them.
That's good. it's the mature and decent thing to do. Sadly, it can be the hardest thing as well, which is why many will fight fire with fire in return.
Though, Idk if this belongs in the romantic relationships forum
They are taking the high road. You have to respect that. They aren't reinforcing the bad behavior by reacting. They're totally diffusing it and they take the wind out of the sails to the people who are jerks. In that case only the ill-mannered people are embarrassed.
I sometimes wonder about these people and I always admire someone who remains nice and cool when it comes to dealing with people who are mean and cruel to them.
Those people often get mistaken for doormats, though. A lot of people don't understand, like the cool calmness goes over their heads, and they think they should speak up and cause a scene to stand up for themselves.
Generally speaking I usually am. Until they start throwing insults, then I raise my voice and they usually get the hint that poking this bear isn't a bright idea.
I sometimes wonder about these people and I always admire someone who remains nice and cool when it comes to dealing with people who are mean and cruel to them.
They are classy and well mannered. However they need to set boundaries, otherwise they will be used and abused by mean, stupid lowlifes.
I sometimes wonder about these people and I always admire someone who remains nice and cool when it comes to dealing with people who are mean and cruel to them.
Sometimes, the one that is being mean, rude and disrespectful wants an irrational response, and sometimes its best to not give them what they want.
Passive= A doormat, letting everyone run all over you. Aggressive= Overly hostile and dominant, much more than the situation demands. Assertive= Generally being nice, but letting your needs be known and enforcing boundaries when necessary.
Assertive= The ideal place to be.
The trick is staying in that assertive range without crossing into passive or aggressive. It's not always easy.
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I sometimes wonder about these people and I always admire someone who remains nice and cool when it comes to dealing with people who are mean and cruel to them.
I have to do that on the job every day. It is HARD to do. I respect anyone who can do that 24/7. But once 4:30 rolls around, the gloves come off and if you come to me wanting to be a b^#*@(d I will unleash my a-hole style.
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