Be strong .. yes ! (father, people)

[TAE AND T.V]

Hello everyone

(at first I apologize for the weakness of the English language, English is not my native language)

My father is a strong personality,, strong limit use of verbal and physical violence sometimes!

I am 25 years old now .. I still hit horrified when I hear his voice or be close to me ..

I worked in several jobs and I now have a large number of friends but with the passage of days begun withdraw from this friendship .. Because
The weakness of my personality .. And the movement of jobs is the same reason ....
I can not refuse any request which makes everyone exploits me
If you asked any one of anything I I hasten to implement the request ..

I am afraid that hate me .. I am afraid that doing harmful to me

I create all the excuses to convince myself to implementation of what others want ..Even personal decisions i give up her .. I'm a lot to apologize and ask for forgiveness and toleranc
If accompanied the group for a long time they will discover this defect and the use ofThis began to withdraw from society and escape from work

was passionate about Loneliness Because it is the only thing that did not hurt me or use me .. How can

I be strong how ?

The most repeated word in my life is the word ((yes)) .. I hate the word yes .. I want to be uprooted from the dictionary .. I throw out of the languages ​​of the world .. Uglier word .. Vilest response .. What is the solution?
What is the treatment?

I went to my father a few days ago I explained to him my problem that did not go unnoticed! and after a lot of talk stared at me angrily and shouted at me, saying, Be strong!!

I answered quickly (yes)!!
　

[weltschmerz]

I worked in several jobs and I now have a large number of friends but with
the passage of days begun withdraw from this friendship .. Because
The
weakness of my personality .. And the movement of jobs is the same reason
....
I can not refuse any request which makes everyone exploits
me
If you asked any one of anything I I hasten to implement the
request ..

People will only exploit you to the extent which you allow them to. The better question would be ...why? Why do you allow yourself to be exploited? There must be some kind of secondary gain. In other words, there must be something in it for you. Do you do it so people will like you more? Are you afraid of conflict and will avoid it at all costs?
What's the worst that can happen if you say no to "implementing a request"?
Some things we have to do, like following an employer's orders, but aside from that? What's the worst that could happen, realistically?

[ocnjgirl]

Originally Posted by TAE AND T.V

Hello everyone

(at first I apologize for the weakness of the English language, English is not my native language)

My father is a strong personality,, strong limit use of verbal and physical violence sometimes!

I am 25 years old now .. I still hit horrified when I hear his voice or be close to me ..

I worked in several jobs and I now have a large number of friends but with the passage of days begun withdraw from this friendship .. Because
The weakness of my personality .. And the movement of jobs is the same reason ....
I can not refuse any request which makes everyone exploits me
If you asked any one of anything I I hasten to implement the request ..

I am afraid that hate me .. I am afraid that doing harmful to me

I create all the excuses to convince myself to implementation of what others want ..Even personal decisions i give up her .. I'm a lot to apologize and ask for forgiveness and toleranc
If accompanied the group for a long time they will discover this defect and the use ofThis began to withdraw from society and escape from work

was passionate about Loneliness Because it is the only thing that did not hurt me or use me .. How can

I be strong how ?

The most repeated word in my life is the word ((yes)) .. I hate the word yes .. I want to be uprooted from the dictionary .. I throw out of the languages ​​of the world .. Uglier word .. Vilest response .. What is the solution?
What is the treatment?

I went to my father a few days ago I explained to him my problem that did not go unnoticed! and after a lot of talk stared at me angrily and shouted at me, saying, Be strong!!

I answered quickly (yes)!!
　

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[purehuman]

Your father beat it into you to submit and always say yes. That's not being strong..being strong is taking charge of your own life, stand in front of a mirror and say NO...over and over, till you get good at it.

[Miss Hepburn]

My advice:
Take baby steps.
Say, "No, I can't help you tomorrow."
I can't meet you tonight.
Sorry, I never loan out my tools.

Notice how people say, Oh,OK.
The world doesn't fall apart.

Be clear that no one is taking care of 'you', but "you".
You are the most important person in your life.
Do always what is the most comfortable to you...and people will
be drawn to your confidence.
Sometimes you will say, "ok". Because you want to help. It feels good
and works into your schedule.
Works for me.

"Be true to yourself " is a phrase we use.
Good luck.

[TAE AND T.V]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

My advice:
Take baby steps.
Say, "No, I can't help you tomorrow."
I can't meet you tonight.
Sorry, I never loan out my tools.

Notice how people say, Oh,OK.
The world doesn't fall apart.

Be clear that no one is taking care of 'you', but "you".
You are the most important person in your life.
Do always what is the most comfortable to you...and people will
be drawn to your confidence.
Sometimes you will say, "ok". Because you want to help. It feels good
and works into your schedule.
Works for me.

"Be true to yourself " is a phrase we use.
Good luck.

Afflicted eyes shed tears when I read your response


Thank you ..Thank you very much