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Burning question if everyone in the room was from Nigeria r u OK with that
What is their obligation to take away your discomfort and make u feel respected
What does the group owe u
I have a friend, Elvis, he's black, he also happens to be a biker, like me (white woman). He and I were at a predominantly white area that's got fishing, a restaurant and airboats (a glorified fish camp). A white woman with her small daughter looked at ME in shock and pulled her daughter behind her, while smiling at Elvis! We cracked up and he said LOUDLY, "I think we just witnessed politically correct fear!"
Why can't people just be people without being reduced to breeds of people?
I'm not even full black, and still had a lot of flak towards me growing up. Kingman, Arizona used to be a bad place to live back in the 70s - 80s, not so bad now but you'll always have the confederate nazi fools. People used to assume I'm always getting in all sorts of trouble as I was younger. I've probably heard the N-bomb more times than I can remember, even when the more rational people "slip". Once in a while I'll run into a dumb redneck yelling it at me, but it was no where near as frequent compared to when I was only a child. It also shaped my constant jabbing at Christians because they build themselves up to be these holiest of good people all the while treat people like me as "lesser" beings to put it nicely. I know better now it's not relgion's fault, but it's the people who taint it with their stupidity, which is sadly widely accepted.
Where I live it's also White/Hispanic but some of the hispanics can pass for white. It's even double worse when you're a nerdy half-black lol. I recall seeing the fear/anger at another man's face if I glance at his woman as a teen/young adult... or just being around someone who's uncomfortable around minorities sets off a switch. People assumed I was dumb, sucked at math, listen to rap, etc.
There were times I'd walk into a restaurant and still get the stares. As for jobs, I feel as I have to prove myself twice as hard than another person. I'm 33 and just got my first desk job only because my former boss runs it and he knows me for a good decade, it was a position that was always for someone with a flashy resume or someone's relative from the office clique.
I know once I make enough money with this new career I'm going to bolt so fast to a more progressive (hopefully not to expensive) city.
I go to a private school where a majority of the student body is rich white people, and the school is located in a suburb where about 90% of the citizens are white and rich.
I'm Asian and although I don't live in that area (I come from a working-class, heavily ethnic minority suburb), I don't feel uncomfortable in the suburb. I don't look like a law-breaker, my school uniform shows that I go to a good school and there are quite a fair bit of Asians in the area, so no I've never really felt uncomfortable, even if the area is mostly white people. I've never felt uncomfortable because of my race in certain areas (country, rural towns are another matter though)... most of the times where I've felt uncomfortable about who I am is mostly socio-economic wise.
It really depends on the how you got there or why you are there. Make no mistake about it if you live in an area that has only 3% African American polulation, people know who you are even if you don't know them.
In the midwest I have seen towns were there was only a single African American person who was perfectly comfortable in there suroundings and they were the only interacial couple in the county. I have also seen schools in the southern parts of the United states were the only African American was the principle.
I know several African Americans who are more comfortable in towns where there are less than 5% African American because they believe if the African Americans are comfortable (and I assume happy) it must be an okay place.
When traveling in South Korea we went the entire day being the only white person on the street and we passed thousands of people. No one gave us the time of day and basically ignored us. I thought people would stare. They did stare at us in China and some stopped us to look at us and take our picture because they had never seen a westerner before.
Im white, unless you want to stretch my tan hehe, and I am not even comfortable.being somewhere its all white, I think this question applies to any color person
I'm black, and grew up with a diverse set of friends, so I can be in a group of white people and not even bat an eye-- sometimes I even forget.
I'd only feel uncomfortable if I got the vibe that I wasn't wanted there, or if somebody gave me a reason to believe that they were prejudiced or racist. One time I was in a group of white people, and the topic of Affirmative Action came up. I didn't mind them griping about it (everyone's entitled to their own opinion), but then somebody chimed in, "it's like they turn down a smart student for a black student." Gotta admit, that was kind of awkward.
Same here...I grew up in a very diverse city and get along with many races, so I wouldn't feel uncomfortable unless someone said something about "all Blacks do this..." or "why do Black people...?"
I'm not even full black, and still had a lot of flak towards me growing up. Kingman, Arizona used to be a bad place to live back in the 70s - 80s, not so bad now but you'll always have the confederate nazi fools. People used to assume I'm always getting in all sorts of trouble as I was younger. I've probably heard the N-bomb more times than I can remember, even when the more rational people "slip". Once in a while I'll run into a dumb redneck yelling it at me, but it was no where near as frequent compared to when I was only a child. It also shaped my constant jabbing at Christians because they build themselves up to be these holiest of good people all the while treat people like me as "lesser" beings to put it nicely. I know better now it's not relgion's fault, but it's the people who taint it with their stupidity, which is sadly widely accepted.
Where I live it's also White/Hispanic but some of the hispanics can pass for white. It's even double worse when you're a nerdy half-black lol. I recall seeing the fear/anger at another man's face if I glance at his woman as a teen/young adult... or just being around someone who's uncomfortable around minorities sets off a switch. People assumed I was dumb, sucked at math, listen to rap, etc.
There were times I'd walk into a restaurant and still get the stares. As for jobs, I feel as I have to prove myself twice as hard than another person. I'm 33 and just got my first desk job only because my former boss runs it and he knows me for a good decade, it was a position that was always for someone with a flashy resume or someone's relative from the office clique.
I know once I make enough money with this new career I'm going to bolt so fast to a more progressive (hopefully not to expensive) city.
I guess I'm pretty lucky. Grew up in TX and my parents had tons of white friends, our neighborhood was diverse, and my extended family is sprinkled with different races. So, even if people have stared at me (which they probably have) when I was the only Black person in the room, I didn't notice.
Although, now that I think about it, if I'm the only minority in a restaurant with televisions showing the news, and the criminal they're focusing on is Black, then yes, I get uncomfortable. It's weird but I feel like everyone would be looking at me suspiciously. Crazy, I know. I can't help it.
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So, even if people have stared at me (which they probably have) when I was the only Black person in the room, I didn't notice. 
I can't help it.
