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Old 08-16-2013, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Well it does many times for me. I'm 66 and have some physical and health challenges which make me not as active as I would like. I see many of my friends my age so active and traveling and celebrating family times, etc and I do feel left out. This study was with 20 year olds but I bet similar feelings are for every age. I find myself reading but I don't post as often as i used to nor do I "like" as much as I used to. When somebody has 73 likes for one post it doesn't make me want to join them. Nothing special about my like and why should I when they haven't "liked" anything I posted in many weeks. Of course my "friends" list is very tiny- how do people have so many "friends". i haven't even met that many people in my whole life.

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Old 08-16-2013, 12:31 PM
 
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Hello, well Im younger than you but I refuse to do anything w social media and thats how I want it. I dont care if every living soul has it, I refuse to do it
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Old 08-16-2013, 01:22 PM
 
Location: California
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Hello, well Im younger than you but I refuse to do anything w social media and thats how I want it. I dont care if every living soul has it, I refuse to do it
same here! i have no Tweeter, MySpace, MyFace or whatever they are. what started out as a vehicle for keeping in touch, finding old acquaintances or schoolmates, has almost turned into an obsession with who has the most hits, friends, likes! people spend hours every day on these sites, preferring them to real-life interaction with others.

but i do understand the OP's feelings. i'm not familiar with how FB works, but maybe you can seek out those on the site who have similar interests as you? or live in your area? or are age-specific with you?
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Old 08-16-2013, 02:41 PM
 
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Well it does many times for me. I'm 66 and have some physical and health challenges which make me not as active as I would like. I see many of my friends my age so active and traveling and celebrating family times, etc and I do feel left out. This study was with 20 year olds but I bet similar feelings are for every age. I find myself reading but I don't post as often as i used to nor do I "like" as much as I used to. When somebody has 73 likes for one post it doesn't make me want to join them. Nothing special about my like and why should I when they haven't "liked" anything I posted in many weeks. Of course my "friends" list is very tiny- how do people have so many "friends". i haven't even met that many people in my whole life.
This is one of the main reasons I want nothing to do with social media; it's an open invitation for too many to try and see how 'popular' they can appear by the 'likes' they receive. And the disgusting online bullying is beyond ludicrous. A lot of it is typical grammar-school attitude.

Now, to the OP: I am in my late 60s, retired, and on a fixed income. Many I know who are also retired have sufficient finances to travel extensively; buy a lot of clothes; new cars; or whatever it is they feel like doing. Not being in that same boat, I don't envy them, nor do I feel left out. I am who I am, and 'what's right, is what's right for me.'

I am not saying the OP is envious, but it does affect her adversely; which truly is sad.

If it appears that others have a better lifestyle - that's all it is "an appearance", because we don't truly know if they are that content or not; we just see what they choose to 'present' to the outside world.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:01 PM
 
Location: Tampa bay
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Just because it is posted on facebook doesnt mean its true. Nobody is as happy as some of these people say they are.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I play games on FB, that's it. It is all about bragging and one upsmanship...pass.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:09 PM
 
Location: Tampa bay
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With the way the economy is, I got sick of seeing ppl post all the vacations they are having and new cars...That is not why I deleted from facebook though. The reason is because ppl were getting annoyed at me for not commenting on their posts or pictures. .......really? I dont have time for facebook drama
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:11 PM
 
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I feel sad for those who use facebook. They're victims.

Facebook is to City Data Forum what cartoons are to the Discovery Channel.
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Old 08-16-2013, 03:12 PM
 
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I love facebook. Without it, I would have found it much more difficult to maintain my friendships with my buddies and family members in my hometown after moving away 2 years ago. I would never have established contact with high school friends I lost touch with and learned how they were doing. I would have a lot more difficulty maintaining my social relationships in my new city. And it's been invaluable to a friend of mine after her father went missing in a foreign country - FB has enabled her to reach far more people.

I have rules for who I friend. I don't allow any of the mindgames and bullying that I've heard other people have dealt with. I hide the negative posters.

I'd say that maybe FB only adds to your happiness when you are happy yourself, but I feel like when I went through some depression stuff a year ago, facebook made it easier to communicate with people.

Maybe it just depends on how you filter information? I dunno.
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Old 08-16-2013, 06:05 PM
 
Location: League City, Texas
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I enjoy FB. But I also limit it to my family members only. My kids & their spouses, & my cousins. A dozen people, total. They live a few hundred miles away, so it's a good way to keep everybody in touch. I don't feel the need to keep up with every school, work, or business associate. I don't get it.
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