Do you seek solitude or people? (weight, depressed, mom, animals)

[StAcKhOuSe]

in my experience, being around people is an unnecessary annoyance that I try to avoid as much as possible outside of work.

[Osito]

Solitude. Except on the internet sometimes as you can see.

[tarajane2013]

I want solitude to the max. I want to live on a houseboat (a house on a boat)in the swamps of Louisiana. Like Mitchell Guist and his brother did. All I want to hear is nature sounds around me. I am 63, married 44 years and this is what it has come to for me. Has anyone done this ? If it were up to me I would never speak to another human being, just the animals.

[tarajane2013]

amylewis, do you live in such a place filled with solitude in Naples?????? I don't have a ton of money to do that let alone around Naples. But you have described me pretty close to where I want to be.

[mordant]

Originally Posted by tarajane2013

I want solitude to the max. I want to live on a houseboat (a house on a boat)in the swamps of Louisiana. Like Mitchell Guist and his brother did. All I want to hear is nature sounds around me. I am 63, married 44 years and this is what it has come to for me. Has anyone done this ? If it were up to me I would never speak to another human being, just the animals.

Might be one of those ideas that sounds better in between your ears than in real life, so it's wise you are asking for other's experiences. The problem is, such folks tend to be off-grid and wouldn't be here talking about it. Or at least they would not, I'd think, hang out in forums if they were really comfortable fishing and listening to crickets.

The most alone I've been was after the death of my 2nd wife. Up to then I had always been someone's son, brother, husband or father. At that point, with my wife dead and my two children grown, I found I needed more stimulation than just endless hiking in the mountains, hence I became part of a morning coffee group as I mentioned in an earlier post. Eventually I found a new S.O. and as it's difficult to control the unwanted side effects of all the relationships that brings into my world, including 2 stepchildren, I feel like I've probably gone a little too far the other way and some days I just want to sit in peace. Fortunately my work is solitary and intellectual so I get several hours a day sitting in front of a computer writing code.

A lot of people don't have that luxury and have to deal with Other People directly all the time. My work makes a nice balance for me that way. If a lot of your "fed-uppedness" comes from work it's something to consider. Perhaps you've never had the luxury of doing things you actually want to do in that realm. Something to consider. Retreating to a hermitage may be an over-reaction. Proceed with care.

[Sydney123]

An equal balance of both

[Rudy53420]

Originally Posted by Sydney123

An equal balance of both

Same here, but would prefer more solitude.

[hojobojo]

I have been very into solitude for about 6 years. I got sick of listening to other people and having very few give a sh*t about what I was going through.

[staywarm2]

I'm an extrovert who very much enjoys people but does need some "down time" alone a few hours of every day. I find it very interesting that so often on the City-Data people who say they are introverts often post frequently to threads about how they want mostly solitude. Actually, in posting and taking part in these threads, they are, in fact, socializing!!!

[Miss Hepburn]

Originally Posted by staywarm2

I'm an extrovert who very much enjoys people but does need some "down time" alone a few hours of every day.
I find it very interesting that so often on the City-Data people who say they are introverts
often post frequently to threads about how they want mostly solitude.
Actually, in posting and taking part in these threads, they are, in fact, socializing!!!

I agree...BUT...I can leave whenever I want!!!!
And no one's feelings get hurt and I don't have to explain or hear whining!!!