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Sadly, many people think that. They are social so everyone must be. I was getting housing assistance at one time and they were all worried that I didn't go out much. I was perfectly happy not going out and had enough housemates when I did it was to go somewhere alone. And we do have friends, but they are people we connected with and want to be around. To just have 'people' there is not helpful.
It's unfortunate that if your different, someone is bound to think you need to be 'fixed'.
It's unfortunate that if your different, someone is bound to think you need to be 'fixed'.
So true.
Not married or don't date by XX age? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
Don't have a solid "career" with a high income by XX age? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
Don't have a gaggle of friends surrounding you? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
Do most things alone in your spare time? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
It amazes me how many people actually become hostile towards you and start putting you down just because you don't care about fitting in with some societal mold of how you should be.
For me it's a balance, however, I enjoy quiet. Listening to music, reading, drawing, cooking, etc. I like my own company and the peace. I also like being around people, but it depends on the situation. I get along with people. Mainly I just want to be around positive people with good personalities, positive outlook in life. I'm not interested in someone rambling on about their problems and/or someone that has anger issues or just issues in general that wears that yuck on their sleeve. Drain to others. Only happy positive energy
Not married or don't date by XX age? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
Don't have a solid "career" with a high income by XX age? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
Don't have a gaggle of friends surrounding you? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
Do most things alone in your spare time? Something is wrong with you and you need to be fixed.
It amazes me how many people actually become hostile towards you and start putting you down just because you don't care about fitting in with some societal mold of how you should be.
The most wonderful thing that ever happened to me was discovering science fiction fandom. The first convention really felt like home and family, even if I didn't know anybody. But there were off the wall people like me. They were people who wrote stories about their favorite tv shows to take them where we'd like. They liked putting on different clothes without calling it a costume and play someone else. They were people who saw the world in a much different way, born of imagination and less limits, and didn't care if someone though they weren't 'normal'.
Not a big surprise but aside from fandom, many fans are also quiet and not out there in the normal social way, or considered different but glory in it. Some of the larger cons had people taking pictures of who went in since we were different. The politics is non standard without having one specific bent. I discovered there were others who felt about faith as I did, that the OLD ways felt right, and that was the first time I felt comfortable calling myself pagan, let alone wiccan.
Of course in 'normal life' I moved away from most of my friends but the whole crush of too many people and noise and general hostility was something I needed to lose, and I feel good about it. I haven't gotten back the coast but once, and wouldn't go unless it included LASFS and a convention and maybe a filk.
LASFS, Los Angeles Science Fantasy Society, over 60 years old, largest and oldest SF club in the world
Convention, the science fiction variety
filk science fiction/fantasy/computer/parody folk music sung in a circle of friends
It shouldn't be the norm that anyone who isn't 'normal' is thought of as increasingly odd and too many believe its society's responsibility to fix them back into the square box.
What about dying alone? Are those of you who want solitude OK with that?
I believe we rest in Summerland, then are born into our next life. If when I pass out of this one, I know my dear pets are arrainged for and my son has a chance to say goodbye, if it was quiet and a dog was at my side, and I was at peace I wouldn't need people. I'm not afraid of this life ending, just leaving without the ones I love, two or four legs, being at peace and safe to finish theirs kindly.
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