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Old 04-24-2024, 02:44 PM
 
Location: Ruston, Louisiana
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The day was when you never saw people hug each other except from a long absence from one another or a close family member at a funeral or something like that. Then when the middle east started to become shown on TV I noticed a lot of arabs hugged. It was strange to see men hug but now one sees it often in America. Both men and women hugging. Is hugging a trend or what? I personally don't care for it from anyone. Its like a hand shake that can mean nothing. I mean a person would really have to love someone to hug them I would think. But if they are just friends why hug.
I've always seen it as "regular hugs" of affection or genuine feelings of all kinds, and the "hugs that matter". A "hug that matters" is one that is needed and yearned for. To me, normal people want and desire hugs from certain people in their lives. A hug is an embrace of caring and support, as well as quenching a need from a certain person. Normal people hug other people, not the other way around.

No, hugging is not a trend. It's been around for centuries. Hugging is a good thing and deep down you probably could use one right now. Sorry but that was loaded............:-)
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Old 04-24-2024, 02:45 PM
 
Location: Ruston, Louisiana
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Nobody hugs me.
Huggz !!
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Old 04-27-2024, 06:42 AM
 
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Yes, enough with the phony hugging already. Get a teddy bear.

Besides my wife, the only person I don't mind getting a hug from is my nephew's wife ... but she's cute and she probably finds me attractive. I don't look for her to hug me, she comes at me. What can I say?
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Old 04-27-2024, 10:07 AM
 
Location: SF/Mill Valley
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Besides my wife, the only person I don't mind getting a hug from is my nephew's wife ... but she's cute and she probably finds me attractive. I don't look for her to hug me, she comes at me. What can I say?
It’s creepy/bizarre you’re interpreting (what I assume to be) a family hug/greeting as relative to attraction in a psychology thread. What do you think it says about you?
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Old 04-27-2024, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Avignon, France
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Yes, enough with the phony hugging already. Get a teddy bear.

Besides my wife, the only person I don't mind getting a hug from is my nephew's wife ... but she's cute and she probably finds me attractive. I don't look for her to hug me, she comes at me. What can I say?
My husband has a creepy uncle that always wants to hug me to the point that I have to practically pry him off. When he comes in for the hug ( that I generally try and avoid ) I cross my arms across my chest so it doesn’t feel like my boobs are going to pop out my back. lol
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Old 04-27-2024, 11:36 AM
 
Location: SF/Mill Valley
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My husband has a creepy uncle that always wants to hug me to the point that I have to practically pry him off. When he comes in for the hug ( that I generally try and avoid ) I cross my arms across my chest so it doesn’t feel like my boobs are going to pop out my back. lol
Mod cut. If you’re that uncomfortable relative to a creepy uncle who hugs you, why wouldn’t you or your husband speak up?

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Old 04-27-2024, 02:07 PM
 
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It’s creepy/bizarre you’re interpreting (what I assume to be) a family hug/greeting as relative to attraction in a psychology thread. What do you think it says about you?
That I'm aware of what's going on.
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Old 04-27-2024, 03:19 PM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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The day was when you never saw people hug each other except from a long absence from one another or a close family member at a funeral or something like that. Then when the middle east started to become shown on TV I noticed a lot of arabs hugged. It was strange to see men hug but now one sees it often in America. Both men and women hugging. Is hugging a trend or what? I personally don't care for it from anyone. Its like a hand shake that can mean nothing. I mean a person would really have to love someone to hug them I would think. But if they are just friends why hug.

Some people are Huggers and some people aren't.
No big deal, one way or the other IMO.
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Old 04-27-2024, 03:40 PM
 
Location: SF/Mill Valley
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Besides my wife, the only person I don't mind getting a hug from is my nephew's wife ... but she's cute and she probably finds me attractive. I don't look for her to hug me, she comes at me. What can I say?
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It’s creepy/bizarre you’re interpreting (what I assume to be) a family hug/greeting as relative to attraction in a psychology thread. What do you think it says about you?
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That I'm aware of what's going on.
From my perspective, it projects a lack of awareness or anger/sadness relative to frustration and loneliness. You’re associating hugs with attraction rather than as emotional support or a social greeting/goodbye relative to those we know and care about.

Per the thread, it’s common psychological knowledge sharing a hug (with those we are close to) reduces stress/conflict, heals negative feelings, conveys empathy/care and improves overall mental health and well-being.
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Old 04-27-2024, 10:39 PM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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Besides my wife, the only person I don't mind getting a hug from is my nephew's wife ... but she's cute and she probably finds me attractive. I don't look for her to hug me, she comes at me. What can I say?

Ewww...that is super creepy.




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