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I'm 28 and while I'm happy with where I am now, I do have a few regrets that touch on that list. All I can do from now on is make wise and fun choices! To the future
So to summarize: I regret conforming to societal rules and not having the courage to be myself.
I think many people will have this regret. It is hard to swim against the current.
So to summarize: I regret conforming to societal rules and not having the courage to be myself.
I think many people will have this regret. It is hard to swim against the current.
This is something I worry about. I wanted to drive a city bus or train as a job but instead became a CPA. I think my dad would be disappointed if I quit my job and drove a city bus - so, I continue to go to my current job. I like my work, but I always wonder if I will regret not doing something I really wanted to do just because it would have disappointed people in my family.
This is something I worry about. I wanted to drive a city bus or train as a job but instead became a CPA. I think my dad would be disappointed if I quit my job and drove a city bus - so, I continue to go to my current job. I like my work, but I always wonder if I will regret not doing something I really wanted to do just because it would have disappointed people in my family.
We are brought up by our parents and society to fit into their "box", i.e. expectations, customs, traditions, culture, gender identity, etc. just to name a few.
It is done with best intentions of course, and our parents worry too what would "people say" about them and their offspring. I've met very few older adults who later in life were able to acknowledge that restricting their child, and bending him/her into a "form" they wanted, was the main cause for their child's unhappiness. Majority of people are still worrying about what would so-and-so say
KC_Sleuth, have you tried to ride a city bus where you live? How about a train?
I would go for rides if I were you. See if desire to drive will still be there after a few hours or days.
This exercise may answer your question about whether or not you have something to regret
We are brought up by our parents and society to fit into their "box", i.e. expectations, customs, traditions, culture, gender identity, etc. just to name a few.
It is done with best intentions of course, and our parents worry too what would "people say" about them and their offspring. I've met very few older adults who later in life were able to acknowledge that restricting their child, and bending him/her into a "form" they wanted, was the main cause for their child's unhappiness. Majority of people are still worrying about what would so-and-so say
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Thank GOD I was raised by parents who stressed individuality and self expression, adventure, etc. I am sure that I gave that same legacy to my own kids. None of us has ever been afraid to "march to the beat of a different drummer." I am so grateful for that legacy, which I can trace directly to both my non conformist parents - who can trace it to THEIR non conformist parents...on down the line.
NO REGRETS, BABY! Actually I do have one regret but I've already apologized to my kids for it and I think we're all good. If I died tomorrow, I'd die happy and pretty much guilt free.
Thank GOD I was raised by parents who stressed individuality and self expression, adventure, etc. I am sure that I gave that same legacy to my own kids. None of us has ever been afraid to "march to the beat of a different drummer." I am so grateful for that legacy, which I can trace directly to both my non conformist parents - who can trace it to THEIR non conformist parents...on down the line.
NO REGRETS, BABY! Actually I do have one regret but I've already apologized to my kids for it and I think we're all good. If I died tomorrow, I'd die happy and pretty much guilt free.
You are now in control of your life. You see, the ego is never in control. The ego is controlled by wishes for comfort and convenience on the part of the body, by demands of the mind, and by outbursts of the emotions. But the higher nature controls the body and the mind and the emotions. I can say to my body, "Lie down there on that cement floor and go to sleep," and it obeys. I can say to my mind, "Shut out everything else and concentrate on this job before you," and it's obedient. I can say to my emotions, "Be still, even in the face of this terrible situation," and they are still. It's a different way of living. The philosopher Thoreau wrote: If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps he hears a different drummer. And now you are following a different drummer--the higher nature instead of the lower. - Peace Pilgrim
This is something I worry about. I wanted to drive a city bus or train as a job but instead became a CPA. I think my dad would be disappointed if I quit my job and drove a city bus - so, I continue to go to my current job. I like my work, but I always wonder if I will regret not doing something I really wanted to do just because it would have disappointed people in my family.
When my dad retired, he drove a school bus for a few years, so there is still hope.
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