So - I have a question. I'm not exactly a parent - I'm a brother. I'm 22, and my little sister is 8. We received full custody of her when she was around 3 years old. Those first three years really damaged her - she was in an abusive home and witnessed a lot. She has been in therapy since we've had her. She's doing well! A relatively normal 8 year old girl. She's in the third grade - talking about boys in the fifth grade! Ugh!
She does pick at her arms, and has scabs all over them. She has some behavioral issues, usually with anger such as screaming, or saying mean thing - sometimes to teachers. Mom said she's struggling in school a little more since the start of third grade.
I've been a terrible brother, really. Big age difference, going through changes myself. And for the past two years especially,
Moderator Cut I couldn't see a thing! These past three months I've started to really change my life - finish up massage therapy school this week, meditation, yoga practices, my diet, and many other things! I've been a good brother - or tried, anyways. I spend time with her and take her to parks and dance with her and stuff. We are gonna make a gratitude jar this weekend.
Mom says she thinks I hung the moon!
Additionally, to be honest, home life is brutal for her. I'm downstairs, but the whole family is upstairs. Mom is disabled, and her relationship with my stepdad isn't great. Lots of yelling and abusive language and just general sadness and negativity. So I've tried to be there for my sister, be someone who is "on her side" and can have fun with her while also being a positive male influence in her life.
I can get a lot of financial schooling aid that I won't be able to get if I put furthering my education off. It would mean that when my sister is 8 1/2 years old, in a few months, I'd move from TN to AZ. Become a life coach, yoga therapist, holistic nutrition specialist, learn thai massage, and lots of other cool things. I wouldn't be back except holidays until she was 10 1/2.
So I suppose my core question is this: Between 8.5 and 10.5 years old, will I be missing out on too much crucial development? Are those very solid formational years? I want to teach her healthy eating and meditation and be a good and positive influence. Plus I want to help heal my crippled mom. The two years of schooling would have me come home with much much more to offer both my sister and my mom, as well as others. It would be valuable knowledge.
But I don't want to miss out any crucial time with my little sister. And I don't know much of children, or child development, etc.
So... advice, maybe?
I appreciate it!