fake suicide threats (borderline, abusive, issues, emotion)

[Tia 914]

I noticed someone here posted that when individuals threaten suicide for the purpose of controlling someone else's behavior, and have no intention of actually following through with the threats, it can be a sign of narcissism and is also abuse.

If this is true, would anyone here have more info, links to sites/articles, etc?
I knew 3 individuals in the past who pulled this type of behavior, and never knew what was behind it other than manipulation.
All of these individuals were male, ranging from late twenties to late forties.

[MEOwDr]

Threatening to commit suicide if a romantic partner leaves can be considered a sign of an abusive relationship:

domestic violence

sorry - I don't know how to make the url a hyperlink

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by MEOwDr

Threatening to commit suicide if a romantic partner leaves can be considered a sign of an abusive relationship:

domestic violence

sorry - I don't know how to make the url a hyperlink

It's not you. To help control spam, they don't let new posters add links.

OP, here is one:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...uicide-threats

[katie45]

It is 'emotional blackmail' and happens far too often.

[fleetiebelle]

The sad thing is that the people I know who have actually taken their lives weren't crowing from the rooftops, "I'll do it, you'll see, and then you'll be sorry!" It was always a shock, leaving people saying, "I just saw her a few weeks ago and she seemed fine..." Had they been more vocal you feel like you could have helped.

[Bakeneko]

I'd read up on borderline personality disorder - a of mine family member who has it frequently resorts to threats, and attempts.

[Tia 914]

Thanks for the info.
I never knew what to make of it, other than it being an awful tactic for individuals trying to get their own way.

[Woodrow LI]

There is no such thing as a "fake" suicide threat.

They all have to be taken seriously and the person making such needs to be encouraged to seek help. Even if they claim they were just trying to get a reaction, perhaps especially if they clain they were trying to attract attention.

Suicide is seldom a spur of the moment action, first the person needs to convince them self they want to commit suicide. this can take years and often begins with "Attention Atracting " threats.

Never ignore a person threatening suicide, even if it seems to be a joke or attempt to get attention.

[TabulaRasa]

It can ABSOLUTELY be done in abusive relationships, if the abused person is attempting to leave, in an effort to coerce them into staying.

[Redraven]

Having had personal experience with such a person, I feel somewhat qualified to speak to the issue.
Yes, she threatened suicide several times. No, she didn't really mean it. when here mental issues got to the "shoot her or leave" point, I left.
She did not commit suicide.
Several years later, she died of a heart attack.
I have read many times that those who make an issue out of committing suicide seldom follow through. Those who actually DO commit suicide rarely talk about it, they just go ahead and do it. This was discussed at length in a Psych class I took many years ago.