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Old 10-20-2013, 10:51 PM
 
Location: California
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Long story short, I miss going to HighSchool. Despite all the bad memories I had, I truly miss it. Now that I am attending a CC I can't find a career I will enjoy. It seems like my life revolved around going to school. At one point I hated it but now I can't wait to go to school and be around people. The military seems like an option but I am not sure. I appreciate you reading this and hope you can give me some advice.
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Old 10-20-2013, 11:39 PM
 
Location: Old Mother Idaho
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Hi, Xavier...
Don't feel bad. A lot of kids your age are in the same boat.

For sure, a hitch in the military will put you in a place where you will be around lots of people all the time, and may offer you a possible career skill that can be used later. But the military always fills it's own needs first, and in my own experience as a vet, many of the military jobs don't transfer into civilian jobs unless they have an equivalent in civilian life.

If you do decide to enlist, take advantage of everything that comes your way. Try to advance in rank, take a specialist school if you are able, and try to make connections that will help you in later life. Make the most of it, because the military offers some valuable advantages once you leave. And when you leave, make sure you have an Honorable Discharge! Keep your nose clean and stay out of trouble while serving.

Lots of folks work at jobs that are not their life's passion. Most jobs are interesting enough to keep the mind occupied, or pay pretty well, or are steady work, or whatever. You don't have to have a job you love. All you need is a job you are satisfied with doing that makes you content. Once you enter the working world there is a lot of routine day-to-day, no matter what it is.
And no matter what the job is, practice, practice, practice. The better you become at a job of work, the wider the horizons open. Skills don't develop all at once, and they all require time and application.

Talk to the college job counselors. They can give you an aptitude test that may help you focus on your strengths, and offer some further guidance.

Good luck! You're doing exactly what you should be right now. It's always easier to drift and let life steer you around than taking the wheel and steering in the directions you want to go. That you are thinking about this stuff is very good.
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Old 10-21-2013, 05:06 AM
 
Location: The Beautiful Pocono Mountains
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21 was the age that I finally started thinking that I may not know everything and at 23 I knew I was clueless.

You're ok. The military is a great idea. It will give you several advantages. You will have a job, housing and medical insurance. It will also give you skill and discipline you would not get for quite some time in the civilian world.

My husband was in the military and it was a good start for him.

If you have your associates degree before you go, you will be in great shape.

When you get out you will fnd that you get first options at jobs as well. Most of the time.

Best of luck to you!!
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Old 10-21-2013, 05:12 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I'm 67 and still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
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Old 10-21-2013, 06:06 AM
 
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Long story short, I miss going to HighSchool. Despite all the bad memories I had, I truly miss it. Now that I am attending a CC I can't find a career I will enjoy. It seems like my life revolved around going to school. At one point I hated it but now I can't wait to go to school and be around people. The military seems like an option but I am not sure. I appreciate you reading this and hope you can give me some advice.
I think the problem is that you think you need to find a career in college. You don't. What subjects are you good in? Choose a major you are somewhat interested in that will lead to a relatively good job market. It doesn't matter if you want to do it for the rest of your life or not. Nearly everyone changes careers at least once in life, maybe more. What you need is to have a job that pays enough to live on, and will give you some work experience. Then you can go from there. For example, if you love helping people and giving advice, you might major in counseling, then from there if you were not happy with the career choice you could switch to many different types of counseling, education, administration, etc. But you can't switch careers if you don't have a career and don't have a job to begin with. You need that first job (or 2) to figure out what you actually like to do and get some experience - that's how you build a career, not by going to school. So what subjects are you good in and what general personality traits do you have?

And military is a fine idea, just so long as you don't mind risking DEATH.
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Old 10-21-2013, 07:51 AM
 
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I am attending a CC I can't find a career I will enjoy.


give me some advice.
Keep in good physical and mental shape
Plan on graduating with at least a four degree in something practical.
Make sure you plan and prepare for the financial means to accomplish this goal
Don't be as concerned with what you want to do in life as much as finding something TO DO in life.
Just because you don't have a dream job doesn't mean you can't enjoy life. It's a myth that everyone has to have a dream job in order to enjoy working.
Major in something practical like engineering, nursing, business, and forget about softology majors or liberal arts or else you'll be back here on city data forum asking advice on what to do with your degree.
Attend the JC while living at home, not incurring debt and then transfer to a local cheap university, ideally living at home incurring as little debt as possible.
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Old 10-21-2013, 08:36 AM
 
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Long story short, I miss going to HighSchool. Despite all the bad memories I had, I truly miss it. Now that I am attending a CC I can't find a career I will enjoy. It seems like my life revolved around going to school. At one point I hated it but now I can't wait to go to school and be around people. The military seems like an option but I am not sure. I appreciate you reading this and hope you can give me some advice.
While I think the military is not a bad idea, I had a couple of loved ones not make it home alive from a couple of wars. And the First Gulf War changed my oldest son, not for the better, forever. He graduated from college with honors, holds down a great job, makes 6 figures -- but he's not at all a nice person. So I'm not a big fan of military service.

If you have some means of support, take a year off from school, and do some traveling. Or work PT, volunteer for the homeless PT. At the end of that year off, you will be at lot more focused than you are now. (I took a year off between HS and CC -- and it was a great year and a mentally/emotionally very profitable year.)

And/or get some counseling. There may be something that is bothering you that you aren't aware of. Counseling will help bring that to the surface.

If nothing else -- it's hard to be 21 right now. No matter what you major in, no matter how successful you are in college -- there are no guarantees anymore that you'll find a job in your field -- and if I were in your position, that would certainly bother me.

[My problem is that I was interested in EVERYTHING, so settling on one major and one minor was difficult. I also just loved going to school. And I also knew that no matter what I majored in and no matter what my GPA was -- I could always get a job. As it was, I fell into a great job, with great pension benefits. But that was 35 years ago. Things have definitely changed.]
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Old 10-21-2013, 09:13 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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I hear ya. I'm almost 23 and don't have a clue. I didn't do the college thing because I was bullied at high school and did not find textbook learning easy. I guess try to figure it out before you get to my age. I already feel like life is passing me by.
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Old 10-21-2013, 09:14 AM
 
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Pass on the military....try finding a job instead of going to school.
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Old 10-21-2013, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Your college probably has a career center where you can talk with a counselor and maybe take some career aptitude tests that may help guide you. Use the resources that are available to you.
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