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Originally Posted by tinytrump
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Tinytrump, for some cultures, it is not that easy to identify bullying and to know how to stop it. Adults view children who have not developed "thick skin" as helpless who need to learn "to toughen up." I have only found two ways to toughen up. One, is to have a support systems that is there when you need it and who can guide you on how to protect yourself. This protection is missing for many children.
Instead, some are thrown into the lion's den. They will be weak for many years but after fighting with lions and surviving, they will toughen up. But what will that kind of toughness be exactly? Surely not the same as the child who was provided with support. These children were given no choice but to face the lions.
The difference is that the children with support usually can
decide when they are ready to face them however. For the most part, they know how to steer clear of them. While the other children, who had no choice but to face them, do not steer clear but take them on and sometimes with guns. You know, because, they gotta be tough.