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I think it is low-down how people blamed you for your SO's death.
Blame does absolutely nothing but make everything worse. When a love one dies, as horrible as we feel we must remember that we are not alone in our grief and the people that blamed you didn't realize that.
Those who commit suicide are making their own choice. I would imagine sometimes with little or no thought behind it, other times multitudes of contemplation. Either way I don't think they are selfish. It is their business how they want to go out.
So to say somebody who committed suicide are selfish is almost like saying being sick is selfish.
The bottom line is that nobody knows who is considering suicide sometimes. Everyone has left low, down or depressed at one point in their life, so how can anybody judge them for wanting to end their lives?
One of my grief counselor has used the term "terminal mental illness" to describe suicidal desperation. So when suicide is discussed, maybe people should be careful with the word "selfishness" because blaming and judging the suicide victim, only adds more pain and suffering to the people they left behind.
Do you believe people who committed suicide are selfish?
To answer your question, no, I don't. I believe that those who commit suicide simply aren't able to think about anything or anyone other than the pain that they're in.
Everyone deserves to be remembered:
The Elephant in the Room By Terry Kettering
There’s an elephant in the room.
It is large and squatting,
so it is hard to get around it.
Yet we squeeze by with,
“How are you?” and, “I’m fine,”
and a thousand other forms of trivial chatter.
We talk about the weather;
we talk about work;
we talk about everything else—
except the elephant in the room.
There’s an elephant in the room.
We all know it is there.
We are thinking about the elephant
as we talk together.
It is constantly on our minds.
For, you see, it is a very big elephant.
It has hurt us all, but we do not talk about
the elephant in the room.
Oh, please, say her name.
Oh, please, say “Barbara” again.
Oh, please, let’s talk about
the elephant in the room.
For if we talk about her death,
perhaps we can talk about her life.
Can I say, “Barbara” to you
and not have you look away?
For if I cannot,
then you are leaving me alone
in a room—with an elephant.
i think people who commit suicide aren't necessarily selfish, but they're just different.. really different from the people around them, they almost feel like they're stuck in an environment they never wanted. you have to take into consideration that people who commit suicide have wanted to live at some point. but because of how they're dissatisfied with what's in front and around them, they take the most easy and shortest way out.. "suicide." if someone committed suicide in my life that i loved dearly, i would feel pain, grief, and anger all at once... but at the same time, i'd know why they committed suicide, not because they're selfish, but because the world we live in is already a living nightmare.. everyday, you have to wake up and live a life.. a path you don't want to! people who committed suicide are not selfish you morons! what they did was a lash out, only crying for help! the suicidal have always wanted to live, but their definition of life means not having to live with a bunch of dumb humans, "a human race." their definition of life is up to them, it could be living on an island and caring for animals, or living in peace and not worrying about a thing called society! there are so many benefits to their imagination and the way they think, but may-be their wish of comfort can not be obtained, so they lost patience and hope, because what they're showing is despair with the world, despair with the way things are, and how others act about it. so because of our despair, we tend to take it upon ourselves and end the life.. that's how serious they grieve over this... so if you meet someone suicidal, don't try to change them, try to be a part of their world. thank you.
They are actually brave. And I don't mean that to courage them or anything. The idea of death should frighten people. I'm prone to severe depression and I've gotten worse this year, but I have never contemplated suicide. Dying makes me even more upset.
So to say somebody who committed suicide are selfish is almost like saying being sick is selfish.
The bottom line is that nobody knows who is considering suicide sometimes. Everyone has left low, down or depressed at one point in their life, so how can anybody judge them for wanting to end their lives?
One of my grief counselor has used the term "terminal mental illness" to describe suicidal desperation. So when suicide is discussed, maybe people should be careful with the word "selfishness" because blaming and judging the suicide victim, only adds more pain and suffering to the people they left behind.
Do you believe people who committed suicide are selfish?
It is selfish. So is preventing someone from dying who wants to die. The latter is more than selfish, its controlling.
With all the stressful things going on in the country, let alone the world, I wouldn't really see it as selfish.
I see it as some people just wanting to escape to a better place since it seems as though there's really nowhere left on this planet to get away from all the drama.
Police shootings, mass joblessness, pollution off the rails, birthrates going unchecked in some places, religious fanatics fighting to take control of peoples lives.
If people don't want to stick around and put up a fight/stand up for a cause, then leave them be.
No. I think they're in so much pain that how it'll effect anyone else isn't even on their radar.
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