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Old 07-28-2015, 10:33 AM
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Originally Posted by bande1102 View Post
I haven't read through all of the responses, but I did have a very close family member and a dear friend commit suicide. Also, a coworker commit suicide. I've frequently thought about why, but here are some conclusions that I've reached:

1) No, it's not selfish. I think suicide is a disease like cancer or any other disease. I don't think those that are suicidal are necessarily capable of getting help on their own.

2) I can't imagine the pain of not being able to continue for one more second. I just can't imagine it. For those who have commit suicide, I feel the utmost compassion and I pray for them. Who am I to judge?

3) For the survivors: They should be treated like any other grieving person. You say you're sorry for their loss and move on. Don't ask them why--odds are they don't know. I mean, it costs you absolutely nothing to show fellow humans kindness, so just do it.

4) I've heard horrible, insensitive things said at funerals/wakes/memorials for those who have commit suicide. I just don't understand how anyone can do that.

5) I don't know if a person who commits suicide is going to heaven or hell. I don't know if anyone is going to heaven or hell. I'm not in charge and it's none of my business.

Very nicely put bande.

I've lost close friends, relatives, sister and husband to suicide. Except for my husband, who left behind his 10 year old daughter, I would not call them selfish. As for him, well, I can only assume he was not thinking clearly and believed it was the right thing to do. It was very planned, all things were in place. He even waited for his elderly mother to die so he wouldnt hurt her.

And btw - he did go for help. The professional he saw said since he went to work everyday he wasnt "that depressed." He owned his company, went to to work most days, played video games in his private office with the door closed, then came home. I'm more surpised he did it because he was so Catholic. He started a charity with his sister and everything, it was thriving and valuable. I only hope he is at peace now. I dont know what he was going through.
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