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Well, would you consider yourself a kind of person who can't settle in one place for too long or do you just dislike where you're currently living?
I can settle in for a few years at a time, then I get restless. I've put forth A LOT of effort to find like-minded people and try and have fun in this city, but it's so painfully boring and uninspiring. It's to the point I don't like going out much anymore.
It would help us decide this if we knew what city you were actually in.
There are definitely boring cities -- boring because they have an overall button-down, socially conservative, or overly religious vibe, because they are small or relatively isolated, because they're economically depressed with shrinking populations, because they are cities dependent on only one industry so that if you're not connected with it there isn't much to do -- or some combination of any of these.
But if you're saying your bored living in San Francisco or New York or Boston or Chicago, which are cities where by all accounts there are endless things to do and a constant stream of new people moving in and out, then it might be you. In addition, since people don't live in cities -- they live in neighborhoods in cities -- maybe you'd be happier with a change in neighborhood instead of moving across the country or something like that.
So where are you now? And where have you lived before?
I can settle in for a few years at a time, then I get restless. I've put forth A LOT of effort to find like-minded people and try and have fun in this city, but it's so painfully boring and uninspiring. It's to the point I don't like going out much anymore.
I feel exactly the same. Wonder if we are in the same city??
I can settle in for a few years at a time, then I get restless. I've put forth A LOT of effort to find like-minded people and try and have fun in this city, but it's so painfully boring and uninspiring. It's to the point I don't like going out much anymore.
Same as me, only I get tired of places within a year. I've had the same difficulties here and have been thinking of moving back to my country of birth for quite some time as I have always been a square peg trying to fit into a round hole.
What would your ideal city be and why? I hate conventional stuff like bars & clubs.
I have always been a square peg trying to fit into a round hole.
I feel like that here.
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What would your ideal city be and why? I hate conventional stuff like bars & clubs.
Definitely a city where there's more cultural diversity, people from all over, and an active social scene. Art, festivals, a strong entertainment hub, films being shot, vibrant music scene, big conventions, diverse cuisines, attractive but friendly, down to earth people...
I intentionally left out my city, because I always get sarcastic comments because a lot of people think it's so wonderful. However, I will answer. I live in Denver. I acknowledge it's better than a lot of places I've lived. But delving further, my neighborhood is notorious for snobbitry, marrieds and soccer moms. YUCK! I'm single and childfree. However, cheap rent!!!!
I was born in Chicago, lived in multiple cities in Florida, Dallas, Las Vegas, Italy and am extremely well-traveled globally. I relocated back to Denver over a year ago, due to a series of layoffs starting in Vegas and moving the layoff luck with me to Dallas.
I've lived in Denver on and off for 19 years now. I don't snowboard or ski anymore. I've put forth serious effort in my year being back here to date, make new friends and find interesting work. Zip to all of it and recently I'm having pangs of regret moving back here.
But, the weather is nice, the mountains are beautiful and I'm by family. Other than that, I'm so uninspired. Denver is so boring it hurts. And before the sarcastic comments start coming in -
I've hiked a 14er
Hiked trails throughout the foothills into Boulder & up to Estes Park
Ghost hunted with TAPS at The Stanley
Participated in community theater plays, multiple film projects & improv
Had my own band
Been to ALL the bars on the Broadway stretch
Been to all the live music venues in Denver
Art museum
attend first Friday and third Thurs artwalk on Santa Fe
Eaten that massive burrito featured on Man vs. Food off Santa Fe
Worked for and promoted a well-known radio station here
Run the stairs at Red Rocks
Had Denver's infamous margarita at The Rio
and a lot more....
My point is, I've been here done that. I'm also not meeting like-minded people. It's always been a struggle to break through the cliques out here - which is why I've moved away three other times. Why don't I return to where was better? Economic collapse.
I've hiked a 14er
Hiked trails throughout the foothills into Boulder & up to Estes Park
Ghost hunted with TAPS at The Stanley
Participated in community theater plays, multiple film projects & improv
Had my own band
Been to ALL the bars on the Broadway stretch
Been to all the live music venues in Denver
Art museum
attend first Friday and third Thurs artwalk on Santa Fe
Eaten that massive burrito featured on Man vs. Food off Santa Fe
Worked for and promoted a well-known radio station here
Run the stairs at Red Rocks
Had Denver's infamous margarita at The Rio
and a lot more....
My point is, I've been here done that. I'm also not meeting like-minded people. It's always been a struggle to break through the cliques out here - which is why I've moved away three other times. Why don't I return to where was better? Economic collapse.
Well your OP came off like a bored teenager and yet you obviously weren't born yesterday and don't sit around waiting for something interesting to come to you. So I dunno ... you appear to have lived places you like better but it's not good for your work. What IS your line of work?
Personally I like college towns the best. I've enjoyed the vibe in and around Berkeley, Ithaca, Madison, Bloomington ... at least close to campus, at any rate; Madison, for example, is still the midwest and the land of helmet-haired soccer moms and the UW campus there only extends so far and then you're still in the middle of a bunch of corn fields.
It sounds like you want egalitarian, progressive, open, curious people to interact with; surely there is someplace like that which doesn't represent unemployment for you?
Whenever I get the itch to relocate somewhere, I see a red flag: I've gotten bored with myself, not my environment!
That is an interesting perspective. I think I'm going to start with getting out of my neighborhood and living in an entirely new area in my current city.
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It sounds like you want egalitarian, progressive, open, curious people to interact with; surely there is someplace like that which doesn't represent unemployment for you?
I would agree. Just don't know where that is.
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What IS your line of work?
I have several skill sets to fall back on. Right now I'm an executive assistant.
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