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I would be honest with you here.
I have never hated women in my life. Never even had negative feelings towards them, I mean NEVER. The reason I don't watch porn because I feel bad for those women who are in it. I have never seek pleasure from it. It was just not me.
Same way, I never chased women in my life. Nor I ever had desire to use them for sex or anything.
You talked about abuse here but how could I ever do that if I feel so uncomfortable in front of women and always try to ignore them ?
I think you are just speculating things.
I can easily live without sex because I don't view women as sexual objects or beings. I see them like my sisters or for the lack of better word " just different creatures "
I asked it here for advices so that i can curb my attraction and desires. Not because I want to seek love or anything but because I can live happily( not that I am not these days) but without any second thought in my Mind later.
I think I come of as wrong but no, it just not the way things work in my world
Meanwhile, thank you so much for your valuable response .
Your original post included a lot of negative emotions towards women. It seems now you want us to believe you only want an answer for the sake of it but not bacause you have any negative feelings towards women. Remember when you said that women only used men for the first 5 years of the child's life and that was the reason why you "hated" marriage and parenthood?
You didn't just come here and requested help "to fix your problem" you felt an emotional need to accuse women of your misfortune. "Hate" is a very strong emotion and you did use in the original post
My actual question is
How to totally overcome and kiill my feelings, attraction towards women forever?
There must be a way.
Oh, I think that's easy. If you dislike women on an intellectual and emotional level, then the only thing left drawing you in is instinct.
All you need to do is take a testosterone blocker/anti-androgen, and that should eliminate your sexual drive. It might make you a little physically weaker and fatter, but if you're suffering from it that much... it might be worth it.
The entire thread, and your OP, is based on the fact that things are very far from under control. You're begging for help to "kill" your feelings and attraction towards women forever. Clearly, your feelings and attraction towards women are out of control.
Based on my experience ( both in and out of internet ) it seems like women in general don't see any worth in their men after they have kids. Things like child support, alimony and welfare system act as a fuel to further the fire. I saw a documentary where women only need men for 5 years. It's during that time when the infant can't walk and mommy can't leave the house. After baby turns 5, she moves on. Apparently that's our nature.
I am actually a 18 year old and the things i have been exposed to like briffaults law, MGTOW, views of many women on men etc in internet make me hate the institution of marriage, fatherhood and love.
Why should i even bother ?
I always stay away from women, totally avoid them, no unnecessary conversation and no friendship with them. I have decided to stay single throughout and never to date or marry and stay virgin too.
But may times i feel extremely attracted to women. I get feeling that women are so special and the best creation ever. Then i feel irritated n depressed sometimes. I remain happy most of the time but sometimes this feeling gets me. And no I don't hate women or anything.
My actual question is
How to totally overcome and kiill my feelings, attraction towards women forever?
There must be a way.
First, don't get jaded before you even start! lol
Second, there are excellent, decent, loving women out there. The key is to not get any woman pregnant before you are ready to financially support a child AND use your brain on who a good woman is.
The two most important factors to look for in any romantic interest are: 1) that person's relationship with their parents or whomever raised them most of their lives and 2) how they treat others (their actions).
Men and women get screwed up by their parents badly. We live in a culture that does not want to blame parents for anything -- everything is "take responsibility for your own actions" which is true TO A POINT. Per most psychologists and pediatricians, the most crucial years of a human beings life are the ages of infancy to age 5 (some say in the womb to age 3! yikes -- not much time). How is the primary caregiver bonding with and treating her child in those years? These same medical professionals also say that the most important person in one's life is your mother or whomever you call "mother"... and if Mom isn't a healthy person mentally and emotionally, then guess what? Neither will her offspring be (by degrees of course). If you come across a young woman who does not have a good relationship with her mother especially, run like hell. Chances are she was raised poorly but knows how to put on a good face in public. And again, watch her behavior... who does she spend time with (quality of her friends), does she have pets and how does she take care of them (her empathy level which is HUGE), what are her "tastes" in things... in other words does she expect you to just buy her stuff all the time or does she truly enjoy your company?
Trust me... there are absolutely wonderful women out there. The key is to know how to detect who's really a good person and who's putting on a good face.
Also, are you a good man?? It takes two to tango, you know. Be a good man to your good woman, or else she will leave you and be justified for doing so. It's not just "us women" causing the problems in relationships.
I don't need therepy. I am perfectly ok and yes I am a collge student. So what ?
Sorry, but you're NOT "perfectly OK." It's not mentally healthy to outright reject all the wonders of interacting with the opposite sex (or a same-sex relationship if you are gay) just because of the negative things you PROJECT will happen. They certainly don't happen to everyone. Even those of us who are divorced often don't regret our marriages, we just believed it was not best for whatever reason to continue with them. It's human nature to remember the good more than the bad; when I think of the men I've had relationships with I remember the good things about the experience even if there was pain along the way.
But you certainly are guaranteeing a bad experience if you approach all women with the idea they are out to use you only as a sperm donor and financial support for their children. I know a lot of men who adore their children and consider their relationships with them to be the happiest and most fulfilling part of their lives — whether or not they remained life partners with the children's mother. But even if you decide children aren't for you, there's no reason for you to be a lone wolf with a wall surrounding your emotions. It's not a way to live happily.
If you are still in college, you are young enough that perhaps you still haven't fallen deeply in love yet. I had casual boyfriends (and unrequited crushes) through high school and college, but I didn't experience deep love until I was 27. That's pretty old for a woman, but I don't think it makes me bizarre. But you have to be open-hearted toward others if you're going to have fulfilling sexual relationships or even mere friendships.
Your current attitude, as you describe it, is one of suspicion and negativity. That has to come from fear that a person who hasn't even had relationships yet shouldn't experience. Growing up, you must have interacted with adults who drilled some really ugly ideas into your head. Please discuss your attitudes with a therapist so you can get some ideas of how to project more open-mindedness in your relationships. It's also possible you might be suffering from depression or anxiety disorder. Getting that sorted our might change ALL your attitudes.
Start with warm friendships. If you can't even feel secure in those, you absolutely aren't ready for sex yet. As someone previously mentioned, your school can provide a counselor for you to talk to if you can't afford to see a therapist on your own. Please do it; don't waste your life on such a negative focus.
Based on my experience ( both in and out of internet ) it seems like women in general don't see any worth in their men after they have kids. Things like child support, alimony and welfare system act as a fuel to further the fire. I saw a documentary where women only need men for 5 years. It's during that time when the infant can't walk and mommy can't leave the house. After baby turns 5, she moves on. Apparently that's our nature.
I am actually a 18 year old and the things i have been exposed to like briffaults law, MGTOW, views of many women on men etc in internet make me hate the institution of marriage, fatherhood and love.
Why should i even bother ?
I always stay away from women, totally avoid them, no unnecessary conversation and no friendship with them. I have decided to stay single throughout and never to date or marry and stay virgin too.
But may times i feel extremely attracted to women. I get feeling that women are so special and the best creation ever. Then i feel irritated n depressed sometimes. I remain happy most of the time but sometimes this feeling gets me. And no I don't hate women or anything.
My actual question is
How to totally overcome and kiill my feelings, attraction towards women forever?
There must be a way.
You sound like one very sick, immature puppy. You are sexually attracted to women, but don't see them as individual human beings - just as grasping schemers. Women are people, not just sex objects. If what you want is a sex object, pay a prostitute to have sex with you. Try getting to know women through activities in which you have a mutual interest - a sport, hiking club, an organization for people of your ethnic group or religious persuasion. Just try to make some women friends, without dating. Sounds like you're socially isolated and forming your opinion of women through the internet, not through human interaction. If you really got to know some women, you would find that what most of them want from a man is a best friend, a lover, someone with whom to build a life and a family, a lifelong companion.
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Be a good man to your good woman, or else she will leave you and be justified for doing so. It's not just "us women" causing the problems in relationships.
