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Old 12-20-2013, 09:46 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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So I've always been curious about this issue and wanted to get some feedback from others. I have an old friend (30years) who is gay and he once told me that he believes that homosexuality is lifestyle choice for many in the GLBT community. I'm sure, of course, that genetics/DNA may predispose some/to homosexuality, but assuming it is a lifestyle choice for others, to what extent do you believe it could be a result of their failed efforts or inability to connect with women romantically or intimately, or at least partly due to it. Like my friend, he said that he was exposed to porn at adult video stores (arcades) at a very young age and that exposure turned him off to being attracted woman ever since. So, it is possible that many men's lack of obtaining girlfriends, getting laid, or have no/limited romantic and intimate experience encourages them to accept homosexuality as a socially acceptable alternative lifestyle to satisfy their basic human need for intimacy???

This is a serious question, particularly with the recent social acceptance of a GBLT community, is it acceptable for guys to consider the gay/bi lifestyle if they can't or don't want to deal with the issues of rejection, approach anxiety, forever friendzoned, etc. that comes with modern dating hazards??? Like many here on this forum seeking answers to they lonely hearts?

And, FYI, I had a couple of homosexual experiences in my early 20s but it was just experimental and that experience helped confirm my hetero sexual preference and have never had any interest in gay encounters since. Just in case you thought I was trolling...

Thoughts??
So you are definitely not gay, but other guys should maybe consider it? That is a new one. Whether it's congenital or a choice makes no difference to me. Sure, it's "acceptable" (meaning what?), but it might not be successful or helpful.
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Old 12-20-2013, 09:47 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Really???

LOL..... I just can't see that.

... Would you be interested in the more graphic details of the female anatomy if men start to really **** you off???? Just sexually speaking, not talking about the other aspects of relationships???

Lets' get down to the nitty gritty details, shall we, as much as pg13 will allow???



LOL
um, is this a question? I don't know the details, I just know he's with a guy now. There were various reasons for the failed relationships. It seems to me guys are more straightforward; if they want sex, they just go for it, whereas women want there to be a romantic element. And the romantic element didn't seem to be this guy's strong point. So if your sex drive is going unsatisfied, I guess you try whatever you can get? Maybe he had latent bi tendencies, I don't know. But his FB says he's interested in both men and women, so he's still into the female anatomy, if that's what you were asking. He just seems to have trouble keeping women around.
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Old 12-21-2013, 06:57 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I know a guy who had a series of failed relationships with women, and he's now with a guy. So apparently it does happen. But I think it's rare.
But isn't it more likely that his relationships with women failed because he was actually gay and just going through the motions with the women and not that he just decided to get with dudes?
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Old 12-21-2013, 07:24 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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You're either born gay or you're not. Simple.

There was a similar thread to this I saw. Also if you're thinking of "turning gay" because you can't find a girlfriend what makes you think gay men will find you attractive?
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Old 12-21-2013, 07:33 AM
 
Location: Northeast Ohio
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Noted biologist and sex researcher Alfred Kinsey brought attention to the sexuality spectrum.

The Kinsey Institute - Kinsey Sexuality Rating Scale

The nearer to the middle someone falls in the spectrum, the more open they are to relationships with either sex.
This x 2.
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Old 12-21-2013, 07:49 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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I know a guy who had a series of failed relationships with women, and he's now with a guy. So apparently it does happen. But I think it's rare.
I'm not buying that this was a total choice. Very likely, he had a desire to "play with the branch" on the tree of love for a long time.
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Old 12-21-2013, 07:54 AM
 
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This might happen more with women.
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Old 12-21-2013, 08:07 AM
 
Location: Somewhere Out West
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When did gay people get a lifestyle? I always thought they had a life, just like non-gay people.

IMO "lifestyle" is used by those to make it seem like a choice, when in reality it is not. I know lots of gays and lesbians and cannot name one who says it is a choice.
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Old 12-21-2013, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Sto'Vo'Kor
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It's OK to be gay. I'd do it if I could. Go for it. It's a viable choice to finding a mate, I suppose if you just want human companionship.
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Old 12-21-2013, 08:35 AM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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um, is this a question? I don't know the details, I just know he's with a guy now. There were various reasons for the failed relationships. It seems to me guys are more straightforward; if they want sex, they just go for it, whereas women want there to be a romantic element. And the romantic element didn't seem to be this guy's strong point. So if your sex drive is going unsatisfied, I guess you try whatever you can get? Maybe he had latent bi tendencies, I don't know. But his FB says he's interested in both men and women, so he's still into the female anatomy, if that's what you were asking. He just seems to have trouble keeping women around.
Or possibly he was gay trying to be straight. His failed relationships are a big clue.

He might be bi, or he might be gay. It doesn't matter much, does it? But the failed relationships are a big clue.
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