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Do you hate passive aggressive people more than you hate people who are downright violent? At least with the latter, you know where they stand. With the passive aggressive folks, nothing is ever direct - snide comments, sarcasm, indirect attacks, slimy behavior, etc.
Either one is ridiculous. Even violent people are unpredictable, and one never knows what will set them off. At least with passive-aggressive people you know you can avoid them without worrying about getting killed or something.
My husband says I can be massive aggressive at times. It only happens because I hate confrontation and arguing. He is a loud person who can be very opinionated and bossy but meaning well. I sometimes get fed up with sitting back and when I know I am 100% correct about something I will get to the point I have to speak up. By then it comes across passive aggressive. I try to temper it but some times it doesn't work. I don't know anyone that doesn't have behavioural quirks. No ones perfect.
Either one is ridiculous. Even violent people are unpredictable, and one never knows what will set them off. At least with passive-aggressive people you know you can avoid them without worrying about getting killed or something.
Do you hate passive aggressive people more than you hate people who are downright violent? At least with the latter, you know where they stand. With the passive aggressive folks, nothing is ever direct - snide comments, sarcasm, indirect attacks, slimy behavior, etc.
Passive aggressive bothers me more. It seems more intentional. I rarely see people who are truly violent. If a person is violent, you will know it. Passive aggressive's probably hurt more people in the long run.
I don't agree. My father was violent and in his lifetime has hurt ppl mentally and physically. When I have a small passive aggressive outburst with my husband he just mentions that is how I am reacting. I say, sorry then we talk about it and move on.
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Sorry, but passive aggressive behavior ain't simply the 'opposite' of "open aggression" or even outright violence. It's basically just another way of expressing anger, and a not very healthy way at that! In fact "professional victims" often use it to push others "buttons", so they can gain sympathy (and sometimes revenge), while standing back and saying, "see, it wasn't me"?!!
BTW, sometimes I wonder whether more insidious forms of anger and aggression like that, and like 'back-handed compliments' are kinda the "price" we pay for living in a more "civilized" culture, with less opportunities for genuine emotional self-expression?
Without going into detail. I was a bit passive-aggressive recently, I guess. Now matter how hard I tried to get my feelings across to someone, she wouldn't listen.
I'm still upset about what I did. If people don't want to believe what you tell them, perhaps they force you to do something drastic. I don't know. Perhaps that is just an excuse on my part.
Passive aggressive people are cowards. They don't have the courage to stand up and tell you what the problem is, so they pretend their actions are innocent. Which they aren't.
Usually, when you call them out, they pretend to be innocent and unaware. So you rarely appear to win.
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