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I used to have low self esteem... and sometimes I slip back into it. And like you, I am not one for the mushy stuff.
What got the ball rolling for me most was one item on that list, #2. Working out and taking care of myself. I would work out and set goals for myself. Swim so far, run so far... get resting heart rate down to X... Swim a mile under so many minutes... etc, etc. And I would work at these goals, chart them, and when I reached them, I felt good about myself. Just a little, but I felt good. And it built up over time. Plus, all the exercise does increase your mood (dopamine). I also started eating better because I wanted better physical performance.
The combined effect was great. I had the mental accomplishments I was tracking... and a good diet and regular exercise improved how I felt physically. I had more energy, felt strong, etc, etc.
Anyway, my long winded point is. don't try to tackle that whole list. Maybe pick one thing (and I picked exercise since you seem to be more of the "thinking" vs. "feeling" type like me and that kind of concrete thing with set goals and scientific backing appeals to thinking people).
Good luck!
This sounds exactly like what my husband did. His self esteem was always low, and when he got laid off in the financial meltdown, he was at rock-bottom. He did eventually get another job, but you could tell he was kind of a defeated man.
When he decided to start dieting and exercising, you could truly see the change in him. Even in his voice and facial expressions. Instead of dragging himself down to the TV in the morning, he sits up and says, "What are we gonna do today? Do you wanna hike?"
It makes a huge difference and frankly, it makes him a more attractive person.
This sounds exactly like what my husband did. His self esteem was always low, and when he got laid off in the financial meltdown, he was at rock-bottom. He did eventually get another job, but you could tell he was kind of a defeated man.
When he decided to start dieting and exercising, you could truly see the change in him. Even in his voice and facial expressions. Instead of dragging himself down to the TV in the morning, he sits up and says, "What are we gonna do today? Do you wanna hike?"
It makes a huge difference and frankly, it makes him a more attractive person.
That's kind of where I'm at, but I'm ok with it. To be honest, this is probably the reason for my now-missing "mojo" that I used to have, as well as my total lack of a sex drive.
That's kind of where I'm at, but I'm ok with it. To be honest, this is probably the reason for my now-missing "mojo" that I used to have, as well as my total lack of a sex drive.
Meh...
Oh Ray, you're only 34! My husband was 52 when he made a turnaround. It's never too late. Heck, he was your age when we got married. Do you want to look back when you are in your 50s and know that you gave up at such a young age?
Oh Ray, you're only 34! My husband was 52 when he made a turnaround. It's never too late. Heck, he was your age when we got married. Do you want to look back when you are in your 50s and know that you gave up at such a young age?
Regrets are like a**holes....everbody's got one. The future is something I try my best not to think about, it just causes me discomfort.
What can I say? I'm an old soul, so now seems like the perfect time to pack it in and coast into middle age.
Honestly, the way I live I'll be surprised if I make it very far into my 50's.
You know, I hear that saying a lot and the first thing I think is, if that's what regrets are like, I only want one or my life is going to awfully __itty!
You know, I hear that saying a lot and the first thing I think is, if that's what regrets are like, I only want one or my life is going to awfully __itty!
If you only have one regret, you're doing pretty well.
But, if you live your life like you only will have one regret it makes a big difference!
Will to meaning, if you GIVE UP, you are announcing to yourself that you aren't worth it, if you really beleive that then you will seem to get lots of things in life that make that seem true...every time you screw up even a little, you'll tell yourself the same old disabling bs.
But, do you really think that anything in your life is really THAT much worse than anyone elses in the worlds'?
Thats why getting out and doing something for someone else is important.
Doing something for someone else who can't do what you can makes you appreciate what you CAN do.
If you can, try volunteering at a veterans hospital...just a suggestion.
look thru the windshield of life and create the world in front of you
you cant go forward, looking into the rearview mirror, this is the major mistake most make,,,you are carrying around such a heavy load of baggage ,,you regurgitate and never spit out
you are your own worst anchor
create a tomorrow you want to live and let go of the heavy yesterdays.... the days will be brighter, your steps will be lighter..
Hard to draw on past successes, when there are none.
And I have to agree with Ray, self given accolades are pretty cheesy.
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