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Originally Posted by PeaceAndLove42
Thankfully this has never been an issue for me, but I have heard time and time again from women that, even though they would be very happy to have sex with their bf/husband they'd still rather watch porn.
Well, be more specific.
Do you really mean they would "rather watch porn"? That is to say, you think they would prefer stimulating themselves instead of being with their human lover?
Or do you mean, "in addition to enjoying sex with their human lover, they continue to enjoy stimulating themselves"?
The second possibility is much more likely to be the truth.
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I never understood this, wouldn't actually having sex with a woman be more pleasurable than watching fake women on some porn site?
Of course, my only experience of sex is doing it by myself, so take it with a grain of salt, I guess.
In most cases, it would be at least as pleasurable if not more so. However, that doesn't mean, at least in the opinion of this virgin, that stimulating oneself would be discontinued.
Surely women continue to stimulate themselves while they are in a relationship?? Why would you not??
I think some people are reading far too much into a guy's desire to watch porn. Some married men like to watch porn, others don't. For some married men, sexual variety can be stimulating - and porn can be a way to offer that variety without cheating on your spouse.
I really wish every man in a relationship that watches porn would come home to their woman banging 3 dudes in their bed. Porn is cheating and people like you are part of the problem.
Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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I think some people are reading far too much into a guy's desire to watch porn. Some married men like to watch porn, others don't. For some married men, sexual variety can be stimulating - and porn can be a way to offer that variety without cheating on your spouse.
Exactly. I agree. The wife should watch porn too. I don't see the problem here, it is not like he's cheating.
Thankfully this has never been an issue for me, but I have heard time and time again from women that, even though they would be very happy to have sex with their bf/husband they'd still rather watch porn. I never understood this, wouldn't actually having sex with a woman be more pleasurable than watching fake women on some porn site?
It's not a issue with me either , rather be with a wife that's a 5/6 than watch a 9/10 porn star.
Fake Women on porn sites are fake/sexy because they paid the $5,000 dollars to get those fake breasts
and hips that forever remains 25 years old.
I'm very creative and never have been attracted to watching porn , those that watch porn usually aren't very created when it comes to different positions or locations in which to make love and get idea's on how to spice up theirs sex life's by viewing porn.
It's not a issue with me either , rather be with a wife that's a 5/6 than watch a 9/10 porn star.
Fake Women on porn sites are fake/sexy because they paid the $5,000 dollars to get those fake breasts and hips that forever remains 25 years old.
I'm very creative and never have been attracted to watching porn , those that watch porn usually aren't very created when it comes to different positions or locations in which to make love and get idea's on how to spice up theirs sex life's by viewing porn.
Yes, there are a lot what you call "fake women" in the industry but there are A LOT of natural women also.
I would say that a male who never watches porn (or feel guilt after watching) or a male who finds it repulsive is asexual on some level. Creative ppl do watch porn also, you know. That being said i think more straight women would be willing to watch porn but the problem with heterosexual material today is that the focus is almost entirely on the female actress. Porn geared towards women with an average sex drive which means a romantic storyline and softcore action is also becoming increasingly harder to find nowadays.
One could just as easily ask why a woman might use a vibrator when there is a perfectly willing man around. The answer is that, obviously, some of her sexual needs/desires aren't being met by her interaction with that man. For many men; pornography, as a masturbatory aid, is analogous to that vibrator. It provides sexual release, without the added pressures of having to please someone else or worry about sexual performance.
The term "addiction" is being thrown around pretty loosely here. Pornography certainly can be addictive. As can religion, TV, politics, work, sports, the internet, etc. The tendency for something to become addictive is more a function of the individual than it is of the subject of that addiction.
Virtually anything can become an addiction for someone who has a psychological need to replace reality with fantasy. Generally speaking, if something strongly interferes with one's normal economic and/or social obligations in life, it is probably an addiction. Pornography is hardly the only potential offender in that regard.
I think some people are reading far too much into a guy's desire to watch porn. Some married men like to watch porn, others don't. For some married men, sexual variety can be stimulating - and porn can be a way to offer that variety without cheating on your spouse.
Exactly. And same with women-- some do and some don't.
Everybody do what works for you and let other people do what works for them, rather than pathologizing anything you don't like.
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