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Old 04-11-2014, 06:54 PM
 
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I watch porn because I'm terrified of approaching women and have a fear of rejection.

 
Old 04-11-2014, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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Are these women as ready and willing as they think or say?

Not an issue for me, but sometimes, it goes like this:

Man asks for sex.
Woman rejects him, because he did not engage in any foreplay (the all day, mental/emotional kind) or just did not approach her in the right way or right time.
Man assumes she isn't interested, watches porn.

Soon, it becomes a trend, because he continues doing it wrong, and she continues to reject him. He assumes she is not interested in sex.

Meanwhile, she sits there thinking she isn't good enough for him, or that he doesn't really want her, because he won't make the effort. She also craves and desires intimacy and sex with her husband.

All she has to do is speak up...but many women find that very difficult. All he has to do is listen, but it is hard when she isn't really saying anything he can understand.
 
Old 04-12-2014, 03:57 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Originally Posted by SuperDave72 View Post
Are these women as ready and willing as they think or say?

Not an issue for me, but sometimes, it goes like this:

Man asks for sex.
Woman rejects him, because he did not engage in any foreplay (the all day, mental/emotional kind) or just did not approach her in the right way or right time.
Man assumes she isn't interested, watches porn.

Soon, it becomes a trend, because he continues doing it wrong, and she continues to reject him. He assumes she is not interested in sex.

Meanwhile, she sits there thinking she isn't good enough for him, or that he doesn't really want her, because he won't make the effort. She also craves and desires intimacy and sex with her husband.

All she has to do is speak up...but many women find that very difficult. All he has to do is listen, but it is hard when she isn't really saying anything he can understand.
You lost me at "man asks for sex". No wonder he's not getting any if all he thinks he needs to do is ask for it.
 
Old 04-12-2014, 05:15 AM
 
Location: Subconscious Syncope, USA (Northeastern US)
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As someone already said - men are more visual & women are more cerebral when it comes to romance.

He wants to see things for stimulation, while she would rather read a suggestively sexual book for stimulation, using her imagination instead of her eyes.

Nothing wrong with either one, as far as Im concerned, as long as the partners benefit from the experience.

Both should get in bed - he whips out his adult magazine, and she whips out her romance novel - and when they are both ready, let the foreplay and what follows begin!

Its against human nature to tell a man not to look. If the female is secure in the love bond of their relationship, I cant understand why she would have an issue with him looking at a video or picture book, and especially if they are both older people.

Then again, I guess they can get a pole installed in their bedroom, and she can do all the visuals for him, if after a long days work she still has that much energy and motivation. *shrugs*
 
Old 04-12-2014, 05:24 AM
 
Location: Subconscious Syncope, USA (Northeastern US)
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You lost me at "man asks for sex". No wonder he's not getting any if all he thinks he needs to do is ask for it.
I agree. She's not a blow up doll.

Honestly, he will most likely get the ride of his life if he satisfies her first....ijs.
 
Old 04-12-2014, 05:29 AM
 
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I watch porn because I'm terrified of approaching women and have a fear of rejection.
and porn makes it easier to approach a live girl??
if only they were so willing as on the screen

terrified is a strong word..
be places you can be friends with women first... the more nervous you are,,it makes the woman uncomfortable..


on the other hand,,
maybe hire a few woman first ...some escorts.. put yourself at ease first..
 
Old 04-12-2014, 06:49 AM
 
Location: Ohio
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You lost me at "man asks for sex". No wonder he's not getting any if all he thinks he needs to do is ask for it.
I don't mean literally just asking. I just mean attempts at seduction that are incorrect or ineffective.

Some guys might straight up ask, but that isn't strictly what I meant.
 
Old 04-12-2014, 07:50 AM
 
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Originally Posted by SuperDave72 View Post
Are these women as ready and willing as they think or say?

Not an issue for me, but sometimes, it goes like this:

Man asks for sex.
Woman rejects him, because he did not engage in any foreplay (the all day, mental/emotional kind) or just did not approach her in the right way or right time.
Man assumes she isn't interested, watches porn.

Soon, it becomes a trend, because he continues doing it wrong, and she continues to reject him. He assumes she is not interested in sex.

Meanwhile, she sits there thinking she isn't good enough for him, or that he doesn't really want her, because he won't make the effort. She also craves and desires intimacy and sex with her husband.

All she has to do is speak up...but many women find that very difficult. All he has to do is listen, but it is hard when she isn't really saying anything he can understand.
Nodding in agreement.
 
Old 04-12-2014, 10:27 AM
 
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Because women in porn are like 9/10 or 10/10 in looks while the wife or girlfriend at home is maybe a 5/10.
 
Old 04-12-2014, 11:44 AM
 
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If you are healthy and young getting it up should never be a problem...There are lots of pornish things you can do with your wife or lover...MAKE your own live porn...right there on the spot. Porn is for lonely old single men and young teenagers....The feel... the taste the smell.... the sound of a real live woman can never be matched by the digital artificial garbage that is porn... I have been around a long time and am old...I fathered four children and had many lovers in my youth...and it was exotic woman are the most precious thing in the world...YOU will figure that out once you age and they no longer want you.....then porn maybe.
My wife would sh*t herself if I suggested making our own porn...but I like your attitude.
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