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Old 03-07-2014, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Oviedo
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I'm so so sorry this has happened to you! I have PTSD. Mine came from 2 different situations, one was an abusive relative (I was very young), the other was hurricane Andrew.

It takes time. What I do is force myself to rationalize the situation. The doctors put me on medications, but all that did was serve to give me a dependency that was worse than the anxiety attacks.

I take Sam-e (which replaces serotonin, or some such thing) and helps to keep me calm, without any side effects. Magnesium works very well to coat nerve endings, which helps to calm as well.

I see you've moved to the country...if you're able, meet your neighbors, get to know who's around you. More than likely, you'll find that your neighbors will be more than happy to help calm you if they're aware of what's happened.

If you're a church goer, get involved with the women's group. (if it's a properly run church, the women will all surround you with love, comfort and help you any way they can.)

Bless your heart, again, I'm so sorry this has happened. I'm praying for your relief and comfort.
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Old 03-07-2014, 10:13 AM
 
Location: kcmo
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My question is, what can I do to help myself move on from these events? Drugs are not an option. I am afraid of any and all pills, including Tylenol. As my doctor already tried to prescribe me something to help me sleep, and I refused.
If your willing to try anything.. experimental/outside the norm.. than honestly.. healing would really help you..

If your really tired of this.. take a stand.. try 200 things.. you can "let this go" and move on with your life..
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Old 03-07-2014, 10:21 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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OP, PTSD is remarkably easy to treat and resolve. It seems to be the psychology profession's best kept secret. Google "counselors" and "psychologists" in your area, together with "EMDR", a very efficient and effective technique for treating PTSD. If that doesn't turn anything up, Google with keyword "trauma". Some trauma specialists use EMDR, and they will list that in their advertising. Relief can be yours within just a few sessions. It is definitely possible to get back to a normal life. The sooner you get started, the sooner you can clear your trauma and see your symptoms resolve. EMDR is NOT "talk therapy" (a waste of time in PTSD cases). It goes directly to the subconscious mind to defuse the disruptive emotional power of your memories/experiences.

Where did you live, that there was so much crime?
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Old 03-07-2014, 10:51 AM
 
Location: Princeton
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OP, PTSD is remarkably easy to treat and resolve. It seems to be the psychology profession's best kept secret. Google "counselors" and "psychologists" in your area, together with "EMDR", a very efficient and effective technique for treating PTSD. If that doesn't turn anything up, Google with keyword "trauma". Some trauma specialists use EMDR, and they will list that in their advertising. Relief can be yours within just a few sessions. It is definitely possible to get back to a normal life. The sooner you get started, the sooner you can clear your trauma and see your symptoms resolve. EMDR is NOT "talk therapy" (a waste of time in PTSD cases). It goes directly to the subconscious mind to defuse the disruptive emotional power of your memories/experiences.

Where did you live, that there was so much crime?

Ruth, have you ever been in Combat? group therapy a waste of time? sounds exactly like my battle buddy and other Soldiers who took their lives. it works as well as AA. It's always easier together. Zing...
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:27 AM
 
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-Get another dog. Nothing terribly scary, but a barker. I have a Catahoula mix who looks like an African Wild Dog. He sounds like 3 dogs barking at once, one person told me. He was only about 40 lbs and 6 months old when I first got him, and the "tough guys" in my old neighborhood used to cross the street to avoid him because they had no idea what he was. One dude timidly asked me if I was walking a wolf hybrid. It was pretty funny - he is a total sweetheart.

-Get bars installed on your windows if you can - make sure you have multiple exits where you can unlock the bars - keep the keys next to the window.

-Make sure your locks are top-of-the-line and your doors are sturdy and in good condition.

-Get an alarm if you can afford it. If you can't, get personal travel alarms and put them on your doors and maybe your windows. Those alarm sounds generally send thieves running when it comes to houses - unless you have obviously big-ticket items, they're not going to stick around.

-Install external spotlights around your house that are motion-activated.

-To treat the PTSD, I would consider medication very seriously. It doesn't even have to be anything terrifying like Ambien - just Paxil might help. Keep seeing a therapist. Take up meditation (great book - WHerever You Go, There You Are). I'd also suggest medical marijuana as a possibility, but it's likely not legal where you are.
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:39 AM
 
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I highly, highly, highly recommend this book to anyone living with PTSD, a loved one of someone with it, and therapists who work with people with PTSD.

Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror: Judith Herman: 9780465087303: Amazon.com: Books

It really helps the reader understand PTSD and how it works. Many of my former clients, after reading it and discussing it in therapy, found great comfort and improvement just by virtue of being able to identify the PTSD processes as they happened. So the symptoms became predictable, short-lived situations rather than frightening, debilitating events. I would get a similar message form many of them: Wow, there's a word for this thing that's happening to me, and other people have the exact same thing! that discovery can be very empowering.

I don't want to sound like I'm doing a commercial for this book, but I can't emphasize enough how life-changing it was for people I've known--clients and friends--who have been through life-threatening trauma. I was so happy when this book--not just reading it, but discussing it in therapy and applying all the ideas in it--made the clients not need ME, a therapist anymore. I would gladly go out of business if this could happen in all cases.

My clients' traumas ranged from combat in Vietnam and the Gulf War, rape, assault, attempted murder, childhood sexual abuse & torture, having to kill in self-defense, and partner domestic violence. that traumas are all so different, but the PTSD processes are very similar.
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Old 03-07-2014, 11:59 AM
 
Location: In my mind (scary)
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I lived on the NE side of Indy near the Broadripple area. I moved an hr away from there. My So still lives there, and its hard to visit him. I understand his feelings on it, it was his home that was violated, but I don't think he can understand mine. I was there, ALONE. He wasn't home when it actually happened. I think he has trouble understanding that this was not the only time I've been through this, it was 3x in 1 year. And I am absolutely terrified all the time!

I'm not to the point of accepting a new dog in my life right now, I still find myself grieving for the one I lost. Mainly because I feel guilty of not being there when (I feel like) he needed me most.
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Old 03-07-2014, 01:04 PM
 
Location: FROM Dixie, but IN SoCal
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Concerned Aunt 936,

You have gotten a lot of suggestions and advice here. Some of it is excellent, and some of it is not.

As far as I can tell, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has not been mentioned. It has a long-standing success record with PTSD. Simply put, the therapist gets things rolling, then teaches & coaches you in how to "treat" yourself, so that you quickly become independent. At that point the therapist isn't needed except for occasional follow-ups, "brush-ups" and special circumstances. If your therapist has not mentioned or recommended it, ASK about it.

Some have mentioned EMDR. It has a pretty good record as well. Like anything else, it doesn't work for everyone.

The number one thing -- keep at it, and don't let a setback or relapse (they do happen) deter you from your goal.

Best wishes always,

-- Nighteyes
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Old 03-07-2014, 01:07 PM
 
Location: Southwestern, USA, now.
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OP, PTSD is remarkably easy to treat and resolve. It seems to be the psychology profession's best kept secret. Google "counselors" and "psychologists" in your area, together with "EMDR", a very efficient and effective technique for treating PTSD. If that doesn't turn anything up, Google with keyword "trauma". Some trauma specialists use EMDR, and they will list that in their advertising. Relief can be yours within just a few sessions. It is definitely possible to get back to a normal life. The sooner you get started, the sooner you can clear your trauma and see your symptoms resolve. EMDR is NOT "talk therapy" (a waste of time in PTSD cases). It goes directly to the subconscious mind to defuse the disruptive emotional power of your memories/experiences.

Where did you live, that there was so much crime?
Good! Another person that knows about EMDR.
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Old 03-07-2014, 01:40 PM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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"PTSD and how to deal with it?" Yoga. Go to class several times a week or every day. In a few months you will be a whole new person, your past traumas will fade into the past, you will feel renewed and have a new refreshing outlook on life.

Give it time. It's magic within your reach..

I'm a PTSD survivor and yoga has saved my life. Mind, body, and soul. I recommend it to everyone.

Yoga can be still meditation, it can be philosophical adaptations in your life, it can be physical exercise, or it can be any or all of the above.
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