I don't know if this would belong here or in another place and may be quite long but I am having a problem.
For starters, my wife has filed for a divorce (hopefully we can work through it) and I have moved in with my brother. We get along fine and have (and still) work together some. Those are not the issues at hand!
Now, my dad died in 2015 and my mom died in 2020 and the house is handed down to me and my brother, though he has been the one living in it since my mom died.
Now, were getting somewhere with the background and here are the issues.
1) He is the executer of the estate, and the house is still in my mom's name. As is the mortgage and the insurance. I feel like a squatter though the mortgage has been kept up. He has been paying as he would need to pay rent anyway. Everything was to be split 50/50 between us but I have felt since the day she died that it hasn't been that way.
2) He has issues with the states taxes from not paying in 2002 or 2003. Basically, he cant have anything in his name. A major reason for never reporting mom's death to the bank. To add to it, he has lied a bunch. "I'll take care of it", I'll call a lawyer", Blah, blah, blah. I don't even know if living here is legal and even if it is, insurance would not cover anything because it, of course, is still in her name!
3) Tax issues again as his trucks registration ran out a few years ago, he reinstated paying his taxes , fixed his truck and all was good, except the tires were trashed. Well, since I had just bought a new truck and usually lift and install larger tires later, I rushed it when I did not have the money to do it. I gave him my tires and bought new wheels/tires/lift for my truck so he could have transportation as I knew how it would play out if I didn't. Well, wife had license but wasn't using car, brother stopped paying the state his monthly back taxes and his truck registration expired.
Since he was working for me I, along with his promise, and permission from my wife, "LENT" him my other car. Of course, since he doesn't take care of anything, it quickly went to hell and he still has it. Again, he can't register a car in his name because of taxes.
4)Part of the reason for divorce (a large part) is because I guess I "gave" him the car. I gave him tires and wheels....all because he had "promised" to find out what to do by contacting a lawyer...which he never did!
5) He is a hoarder. He never went through any of our parent's things to throw away and my mom never liked to throw anything away. He doesn't like it when I try to clean up and try to make this place remotely livable. The office is so full of junk that it has now piled up things in the living room and on the kitchen table. I refuse to eat anything when he cooks because I want him to try to see how he just leaves the dishes to pile up for a week or more and never puts anything away. For Christs sakes there are 3 trashcans in the kitchen plus he opens up the paper bags for trash that he gets when he goes to the store.
6) He is always broke and has kept a storage shed at 200/250/month for the past 20 plus years filled with more crap. This house is a 3/3 with a huge upstairs attic and a 2 car garage and the attic is filled and you cant get into the garage.
7) His truck as well as my dad's car are still in the driveway, with expired tags and he is still paying insurance on them, so the state won't charge him for the daily rate of keeping expired tags. Something about not wanting to flag the HOA with untagged vehicles. Car has not run (bad transmission) since 2020 and the truck has been parked since 2021. They have left indentations in the asphalt driveway. I park on the street with the only decent vehicle!
Good to know that if there is a fire, the broken-down car and truck will be covered but the house wont.
This is driving me insane as I can't live like this.
I want to approach him about selling the house. Of course, if it gets transferred to our names and sold, guess where all the profit will go? I believe to the state for HIS unpaid taxes. There is a lien on his truck and my dads car (put in my brothers name after dad died) so as soon as the house gets transferred over, I'm sure a lein will go on that as well so me, who does not have tax issues, will be affected because of this.
He won't listen and he keeps kicking the can farther along, except now, I believe, he has hit a wall as I'm not going for it. That can can't go any further!
I am starting a purge of all our parent's crap. He wants to go through the paperwork and burn whats not needed. He has had 3 1/2 years. Besides, why do you need to go through that anyway. My spot checks see crap dated 1970, 1965'1967---really. Cancelled checks from 1984 that he needs to go through. Give me a frikin break. As soon as I get a few bucks I'm going to see a lawyer as to what can be done.
I have my own problems going on and don't need this on top of it.
Any ideas?