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A psychology question...
Is it just to feel like where the "life" is at?
I'm headed to house party here, and when get there I intend on meeting everyone there. That's kind of the nature of house parties right?
But when it comes to public parties people don't really interact much outside the group they came with. I've been watching people and groups of people slowly show up to the apartment pool party today. In the whole day none of the people have interacted with anyone they didn't already come with. A lot of people only came with 1 other person and are just sitting on lawn chairs with just... that 1 other person all day, some are entranced in their iphones. The largest group is 6.
This is strange to me because I see the same phenomenon all the time - at bars, city parties, hermann park, discovery green... I mean why don't these people come when it's less crowded and the pool is cleaner and more peaceful? Why come to the party if you don't want to talk to anyone? It's like not taking part in the party, and it's really weird when no ones doing it... I'm sure some people will eventually talk to someone outside their group, but it sure is rare, and slow to happen if it happens at all.
I always meet people at public parties just like I meet people at public bars. Most people lack social skills these day though. IMO it's a byproduct of facebook, twitter, forums and having a cell phone stuck up their asses all day. Many simply don't know how to interact with a stranger in person anymore.
I always meet people at public parties just like I meet people at public bars. Most people lack social skills these day though. IMO it's a byproduct of facebook, twitter, forums and having a cell phone stuck up their asses all day. Many simply don't know how to interact with a stranger in person anymore.
Hummm... Now that I think about it, I've noticed the same thing! And this happened before cell phones were around. I've gone to parties at a restaurant or bar and few people mingle with others.
Psychology is a good one for this... And I'll bet it has something to do with a "conditioned response" or "expectations" of behavior when in a bar or restaurant as opposed to being in a private house.
I can't put my finger on it... But I do feel more "free" when at someone's house. And I do feel more "restricted" when in a public place. (As to my behavior - what I can and can't do.)
This is definately a tough question and a very interesting observation.
First of all, I think people generally are not comfortable meeting new people so they is why they stay with the people they came with the whole time. It provides a safe haven.
With your observation on why people don't come when it's less crowded I believe that people want to feel as if they are in the center of the action. Therefore if they came during an "off peak hour" they would feel like they are missing something. Even though someone who comes to a party at its most crowded time may not interact with anyone they feel more accomplished because they feel they saw the most number of activities going on and displayed to others that they were there.
I don't know if that makes sense but it sorta does to me. Could be right or could be way off.
its better than sitting in your house alone on a holiday when you could be outside at the pool party enjoying the fresh air and pool. and who knows, maybe someone will offer you a beer!
I think the kind of parties where you go but don't talk to anyone are the domain of the young and single. The main point seems to be to look good and attract the attention of the opposite sex, even if you don't talk to them. As an adult, I don't go to parties like that or even know about them. There just wouldn't be any point.
I think the kind of parties where you go but don't talk to anyone are the domain of the young and single. The main point seems to be to look good and attract the attention of the opposite sex, even if you don't talk to them. As an adult, I don't go to parties like that or even know about them. There just wouldn't be any point.
that must be why I didn't feel like i fit into the 20 somethings at a recent party. They were nice but i just didn't feel like i had anything in common with them.. but im pretty much an introvert and am pretty much happy about it, but still i did strongly notice that i felt like an alien from another planet there.
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