There is an AA member that I have known for a good ten years. We’ve been friendly but not particularly close. He’s been in the program for over 25 years and speaks with authority at meetings. From time to time after the meeting we have gone out for coffee in a group. However, I find him way too intense and someone I prefer not to socialize with.
Two years ago he started working with me a twice a week. I was friendly during the breaks/lunch time but after awhile I backed away which was fine since he was chatting with other co-workers.
Unfortunately, he started to alienate others in the office and they too began avoiding the man. At which point he started popping up wherever I was with a big smile on his face in an effort to get me to chat.
I've been polite yet tried making it clear I don’t want to sit down and chat (I just say hi and keep walking.) However, the guy just keeps trying. If I say anything other than a few words he takes it a sign we're all buddy-buddy and steps up his efforts to get me to talk more.
Anyone have experience dealing with toxic people that hoover? If so, how did you get them to stop? Should I just tell him? It should be readily apparent I don't want to talk with him but I'm guessing the guy is either oblivious and doesn't care.
Hoovering:
When Toxic People Start Hoovering – A Blog About Toxic and Non-Toxic People
http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/w...#axzz3HsE8SIjO