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A lot of women are so desperate to be with a man they will/wont believe anything to stay with him. Even her children telling her there is sexual abuse going on.
At a certain age (younger), you should believe when a child's natural instinct tells them something isn't right about a situation. Teenage crying wolf/looking for pity/attention-that's a different story.
A childhood friend of mine was abused and her parents never believed her, I did, but we were so young, and I did not know how to help her.
Fast forward to adulthood, a co-worker's daughter was abused by her step-father of 6 weeks, whom my friend promptly divorced.
Shouldn't sexual abuse be uncommon, especially in childhood?
Does anyone have any experience with it?
My step-dad molested me from the time I was five until I was 12. I have an older sister and a younger sister whom he also molested. My oldet sister turned him in when she was in junior high school. I was about nine years old. Before the social workers came to the house my mother told me not to tell them anything or I would never see her again. This frightened me as a little kid and didn't say anything to the case workers when they asked if he touched me. He, stepdad,did molest my little sister also. I finally got the guts by the time I was in JH to turn him in. My older sister wad angry with me and went out and got pregnant at 14 like a ticket out of the house. When I turned him in finally I was put in foster care and punished worse than the man who did the molesting. I wrote my mother from a private school they put me in cuz I couldn't stand foster homes. I poured my heart out to her trying to get some realization out of her. She wrote me back once. It was very ugly and hateful. It broke my heart. It took me several years to realize she knew all along and she would never give up the money for truth. (He is wealthy). But something else happened that I didn't expect. I always thought the truth would come out as we got older , but the lies are worse. See my step dad made a lot of money in horse racing. My older sister , my younger sister and my mother all have this excellent and fake relationship with each other and I'm the bad guy cuz I don't want my children around that sick ****. I stand for the truth but it is not easy. Ppl treat me with hate and arrogance like I needed attention so bad I made it up. To me they sold their souls for money . But it hurts being cast out and hateIt tod all these years for what he did. It torments me to this day. I often feel alone. But I know my children will not go through what I have had to . . .
My step-dad molested me from the time I was five until I was 12. I have an older sister and a younger sister whom he also molested. My oldet sister turned him in when she was in junior high school. I was about nine years old. Before the social workers came to the house my mother told me not to tell them anything or I would never see her again. This frightened me as a little kid and didn't say anything to the case workers when they asked if he touched me. He, stepdad,did molest my little sister also. I finally got the guts by the time I was in JH to turn him in. My older sister wad angry with me and went out and got pregnant at 14 like a ticket out of the house. When I turned him in finally I was put in foster care and punished worse than the man who did the molesting. I wrote my mother from a private school they put me in cuz I couldn't stand foster homes. I poured my heart out to her trying to get some realization out of her. She wrote me back once. It was very ugly and hateful. It broke my heart. It took me several years to realize she knew all along and she would never give up the money for truth. (He is wealthy). But something else happened that I didn't expect. I always thought the truth would come out as we got older , but the lies are worse. See my step dad made a lot of money in horse racing. My older sister , my younger sister and my mother all have this excellent and fake relationship with each other and I'm the bad guy cuz I don't want my children around that sick ****. I stand for the truth but it is not easy. Ppl treat me with hate and arrogance like I needed attention so bad I made it up. To me they sold their souls for money . But it hurts being cast out and hateIt tod all these years for what he did. It torments me to this day. I often feel alone. But I know my children will not go through what I have had to . . .
Your stepdad and mother are pure evil. You are better off without them. I would rarely say this, but you should probably not communicate with them anymore and focus on your family and try to heal
Robbin, I know exactly what you are going through.
When I was a kid, I told my mother and she refused to believe me. I remember peeking around the corner hearing parents at the school where he worked calling my mother telling her that he was molesting their kid. I remember her proclaiming "He would never do that!" She confronted him once and she came back blaming me, as a child, telling me that he said it was somehow my fault. She knew all along, and only cared about herself. She threw her child (and other children) to the wolves, in exchange for cash from a man.
This woman has 2 Masters degrees and could of supported herself just fine. She needed more to feed her insatiable ego. At one point when I was going off to college, I confronted her again, and her response was "we would have no money if I divorced him! Do you want to go to college, or do you want me to divorce him, you decide!" It did not matter that she had a huge home, a vacation home, 3 cars, and 10 other properties. It all boiled down to "me deciding if I wanted her to divorce him, or if I chose college." Mental manipulation and abuse at it's finest.
He used to take me in a room when no one was around and beat me with a wooden board while taunting me. When I tell this to my mother to this day, she laughs uncontrollably. I truly think they were both pure evil.
Years later she finally did divorce him, but, only after she caught him cheating with a woman who was a lot skinnier than she was. It literally sent her through the roof with screaming rage. Priorities, I guess...
Of course his first family and all of his prior daughters are still around, albeit long distance, delicately maintaining that "good" relationship, waiting for that big inheritance one day...When that day comes, may their money be a fix for their own lifetime of mental anguish they sold themselves out for...
And as a side note, both of these people worked for 35 years in the public school system. I could write a book about the male sexual deviants working with children in the schools. You hear a lot of what goes on behind the scenes growing up with teachers and administrators. People think there is an issue with priests..It is just as bad with men in the schools.
I was abused by a family doctor, but my younger sister was sexually abused by my older sisters husband from 9-14. My Mother knew, but never told my Dad as she knew he would have killed him. (I should tell you that I only found out about this 2 years ago) I also found out just recently that he tried to do the same with my daughter when she was 15. She never told me until he dropped dead suddenly 8 months ago. If I had known....it would not have been good, trust me. I hope he rots in hell! And as far as my sister goes....she blamed my baby sister saying she started it! How can a 9 year old come on to a 40 year old is beyond me! I do know, I found out after my Mom passed, she too was raped by her step-grandfather. It is probably why she never told my Dad. She lived with that pain her whole life.
I had a friend in lower school. She asked me one day if a girl could get pregnant if someone just touched her in her private area with his privates. What a weird question!! She told me her brother was doing this in a closet. At first she told me he did this when she was about 5, but with her asking me that in 5th grade, I thought he was still doing that. Meanwhile, her father would be calling her horrible names. I could hear him in the background. She admitted her father knew about this and would do similar things to her, but she didn't want me to say anything because she was afraid of what her brother and or father would do. She also said her mother was aware but wasn't doing anything about it. I told my mother, but she didn't believe me. She had met this girl's father before and thought he looked like a nice, clean-cut man. I mean...how is an abusive man supposed to look like? I insisted my friend told me this in secret, but my mother continued to bury her head in the sand. I decided to risk my friendship with my friend and told a teacher at school. Again, I was met with disbelief because my friend didn't come to school with bruises. My friend was afraid of anything being thrown in her direction. Practicing for basketball was no fun since I was always the one to be paired with her (I was the only one who would talk to her. I was her only friend). I couldn't even bounce the ball to her. I had to roll it for her not to flinch or hide from it. I knew something was wrong, but still, no one believed me. I tried I really did for what a child could do. I lost touch with her after she left school. A few years later, I found out she had apparently been brought to a mental hospital and then eventually committed suicide.
I had never been faced with that and I felt awful for her. I knew what was going on and there was nothing I felt I could do about it.
Another kid I knew in high school was going through something. Her father was abusive to her and her sisters. She had a family of 6. Her oldest had already left the home and was in college. Then there was this girl and her young siblings (two of them girls. Her sister left already abused. This HS girl refused to tell on her father because she was afraid her drunk mother would also loose her rights as a parent and she would have forced her siblings to be placed in foster homes and separated. She didn't feel she could be responsible for that. She also took the brunt of the abuse since she was the oldest. Her younger siblings didn't get nearly as much abuse as she did because she always took the blame for them. She'd come to school bruised, but no one said anything about it. She would deny it anyway. It was hard to watch. She felt so responsible for her family. She'd walk around with such weight on her shoulders. She wasn't the nicest person in the world. I generally ignored it because I knew she felt she didn't get the things she wanted. That included my prom date. Eh, he didn't like her. He had dated her, but they broke up and she never let go. We were friends, but she took his attention anyways. I let it go. She needed SOME happiness in her life.
Many of them are not actually Christians, that is the first reality many of you have to face. The second is that many people actually believe children should be abused. Third, if you are a child or anyone being currently abused i have the simple answer. Video. Set up a device and next time you're raped it will be on video. Then go to the local police and call an attorney, even if your 5, after you've copied the video and hidden a copy or two. The only way to catch them is to have physical evidence. they are now in the process of digging up child pornography that goes back who knows, 50 years or more. Interpol and authorities who do care (the ones not part of the Cabal) have facial recognition technology now. They have successfully found kidnap victims and solved many other cases some going back decades, We have heard this week in the news about the Florida boys school were children were abused and murdered. My only hope is that somewhere the pornography is somehow matched in a data base, either the perp or the child, that is the only real way to go after these animals, and many of them still will not go to jail or even be punished. It is mankind's darkest most horrible secret, and unless the entire nation stands up and says no more it will continue on though the millions of years as long as we exist.
My daughter asked me once, a few months after she had told me what happened, "What would you do if I told you I was lying?" I said, "I'd ask why you're lying now, because I know you already told me the truth." That was it; she was just testing me to see if I really believed her. Of course I did. I knew exactly who was the liar in this situation, and it was my ex, a horrible excuse for a human being!
My daughter even told me that she thought about telling her stepmom, but decided not to. Her stepmom had issues (well, she'd have to, to be involved with my ex!), and my daughter couldn't risk telling her. If she told someone once and wasn't believed, she never would have taken that risk again. Thank God she chose to tell me!!! (Btw, the stepmom's reaction to all of this: "I just want everything to be the way it used to be!" Really?! )
A couple of years ago, my daughter asked me why I had left her and her brother with him in the first place. I said, "I've been waiting for you to ask that. It was a terrible mistake. I was very young, and I thought I was a terrible mother. If I could go back in time, I'd do things very differently."
Nothing angers me more than when someone doesn't own up to their mistakes. I messed up, so I had to tell her that. Too many parents would say something like, "Why are you asking that now? That was years ago!" or "I did the best I could; sorry if I was supposed to be perfect!" This was about her pain and suffering; how could I give her a flimsy excuse?
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I was molested for years.
I really did for what a child could do. I lost touch with her after she left school. A few years later, I found out she had apparently been brought to a mental hospital and then eventually committed suicide. 
(Btw, the stepmom's reaction to all of this: "I just want everything to be the way it used to be!" Really?! 
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