I Neet to Blow Off Steam Sometimes; Wish My Wife Was Like Me (husband, thoughts)
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I would not want to be in a work environment with so many workers "upset" and needing to "let off steam." Sounds very unprofessional, and stressful as well.
It sounds like a miserable place to work. Surely productivity is affected by all that emoting and disruption. Hard to believe that really goes on. Where are the supervisors?
It sounds like a miserable place to work. Surely productivity is affected by all that emoting and disruption. Hard to believe that really goes on. Where are the supervisors?
I have an image of him working as a chef in Hell's Kitchen, or maybe this is him...
The kids are just fine, thank you, and are loved on far more than they're disciplined, and no, my son's feet were not scalded, nor he was not made to WALK on hot pavement, I simply decided to not stop him when he, of his own accord, got out of the car barefooted and HIMSELF stepped onto the pavement. The only part where I come in is that he tried to get back in the car, but I locked the doors with the remote and made him stand for about 15-odd seconds that way, I took that chance to make my point "do you now see why you need shoes?" because my feeling on it was that he wasn't going to listen until he experienced the consequences of his OWN choice and made the connection, just like the driver's ed teacher I told you about (his student didn't listen about driving on the right side of the road vs the left until the instructor allowed him to experience a close call). That was a "teachable moment" and things needed to pause for the lesson to be learned.
Regardless, that's been several years ago anyway and happened ONCE. The point I believe I made--it's not my job to put my son's shoes back on him for him, that's HIS job, my job is to TRAIN him on that concept and make sure he's provided with good shoes to start with. Putting them on and KEEPING them on, that's HIS job.
It's abuse even if it happens once. And it's abuse even if you don't consider it to be. Especially if you don't consider it to be, in your case.
What about modeling the behavior you'd like to see out of your children? Children who grow up with parents who yell and can't control anger grow up to yell and be unable to control anger. Or they grow up to cower like the other parent in the equation. You are setting yourself up for a world of hurt when your kids reach high school age. Parenting by fear ensures poor behavior up the road.
I was wondering about that, too. Another possibility is undiagnosefd allergies. Celiac disease can cause uncontrollable angry outbursts like that. But there's more to the OP's situation. Because notice that he says he's able to control himself at work, 8+ hours/day. So if he can control himself at work (no food allergy issues or meds needed there, clearly), he can do so at home if he chooses. Some men simply choose to use their anger to terrorize and control their so-called loved ones at home.
My armchair psychoanalysis is that he is walked all over on at work, and feels/is too powerless to do anything about it. So he takes his pent-up anger out on his family, as well as to feel some semblance of power, like he's 'still got it'.
*adjusts circular glasses and takes a puff from a pipe*
My armchair psychoanalysis is that he is walked all over on at work, and feels/is too powerless to do anything about it. So he takes his pent-up anger out on his family, as well as to feel some semblance of power, like he's 'still got it'.
*adjusts circular glasses and takes a puff from a pipe*
I am not necessarily advocating for laws on this (although they do exist to a certain extent), but I myself can't stand loud mufflers on vehicles. It's simply noise for the sake of noise, and to me it's ignorant.
Someone else mentioned barking dogs--I agree, and in fact that is probably my #1 complaint with regards to noise pollution. When I read stories about neighbors killing another neighbor's dog, I don't feel sorry for the dog owner in the least and to a certain extent I even CHEER this sort of thing. That someone poisons or "kidnaps" a neighbor's dog is not a reflection on how sick such people are, it's a reflection on what jerks many dog owners are.
As for the dog barking and the owners saying "I can't make it stop"--like heck you can't. That durn dog would sure enough stop barking if you'd put your foot up its a`s-s and show it who's boss. Either that, or get a shock collar, or have it trained. And don't tell me how those things are "abuse," that's no different than someone having a noisy brat of a child in a nice restaurant and refusing to do anything to make them stop because giving them a pop on their rear-end is "abuse." You're being a wuss of a dog owner or parent letting your dog/child run the show, and it's not cool.
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