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I know someone who seems to always have an excessively positive attitude. She doesn't know how to deal with anything negative or depressing, even if it's the truth. Instead, she will just ignore the issue and pretend it doesn't exist. Despite her seemingly happy outlook, she is always miserable. I don't think I have ever seen her laugh or smile. She also doesn't get along particularly well with others due to her excessive optimism.
There are plenty of others just like this. A facade of happiness on the outside, with their true miserable self hidden within. They also tend to be the most easily offended by jokes that they would consider "rude", even if it doesn't concern them.
I once had a female friend that was literally the most positive person I have ever met. It was so exhausting being around her because it just wasn't real. It was like she built up some happy fantasy attitude and would never face the cruel parts of life too. That was until I witnessed her break down and cry because she let this guy use her for what he wanted then he dipped out. After him, this nice guy liked her. She told me she did not want him because he isn't attractive (he's obese). A month later, they were together and still are a couple of years later. Guess she got tired of being hurt and settled for the nice guy.
On another note, for her to be such a 24/7 in your face positive person, she recently posted articles about how pornography should be banned, and a long feminist written article of how 50 Shades of Grey should be banned because it is degrading to women. How can you be positive, but full of hate for people/things you don't agree with? I think she took religion just a tad too far.
I know someone who seems to always have an excessively positive attitude. She doesn't know how to deal with anything negative or depressing, even if it's the truth. Instead, she will just ignore the issue and pretend it doesn't exist. Despite her seemingly happy outlook, she is always miserable. I don't think I have ever seen her laugh or smile. She also doesn't get along particularly well with others due to her excessive optimism.
There are plenty of others just like this. A facade of happiness on the outside, with their true miserable self hidden within. They also tend to be the most easily offended by jokes that they would consider "rude", even if it doesn't concern them.
I can't say that my life experience jibes with yours. But some people are simply happier than others. Some of us have to work at it. But really, happiness is not something to be achieved, only something that happens to us from time to time as we live our lives. You can't achieve happiness, IMO. Happiness happens to you.
You can't achieve happiness, IMO. Happiness happens to you.
Studies have shown, though, that most people are happy because they choose to be. They make up their minds to be positive, and to "not sweat the small stuff" in life. To let minor setbacks roll off their back.
I know someone who seems to always have an excessively positive attitude. She doesn't know how to deal with anything negative or depressing, even if it's the truth. Instead, she will just ignore the issue and pretend it doesn't exist. Despite her seemingly happy outlook, she is always miserable. I don't think I have ever seen her laugh or smile. She also doesn't get along particularly well with others due to her excessive optimism.
There are plenty of others just like this. A facade of happiness on the outside, with their true miserable self hidden within. They also tend to be the most easily offended by jokes that they would consider "rude", even if it doesn't concern them.
Sounds like this is only your opinion based on your "Negative" attitude. You think she is too happy, therefore, can not really be happy? How do you know she can't deal with negative issues? Maybe she just finds it a waste of time and non productive to discuss negative or depressing issues all the time, true or not true. You say that "Despite her seemingly happy outlook, she is always miserable." How do you know if she has a "Happy" outlook, as you say? Is "miserable" how you think she feels? Or does one who "seems" happy, is really miserable, because that's how you feel when you seem happy?
If she can not get along with "others" because she is too positive and too happy, I would suggest she find some new friends who are also happy to be alive, and stay away from you too. Maybe you see her this way, because she is what you want to be, and can't. Maybe your miserable, even when your trying to put on a happy face, so you figure no one can be different. Your absolutely wrong. I am one of those positive happy people, but also a realist, and know how to deal with problems. You solve them, not be miserable about them. I also dislike people that have bad attitudes, and always preach doom and gloom. And I also get offended by rude or cruel jokes, even if they don't concern me.
Bottom line is, that its you, who may have the problem, and need to step up a notch or two in your own surroundings Tommy.
If she can not get along with "others" because she is too positive and too happy
The problem is that she is not happy. Well, at least it seems that way. The amount of criticisms coming from her is amazing. Anyone else's opinion is automatically wrong if she doesn't agree with it.
Very few people enjoy being around her. In order to communicate with her, you must step away from the real world and into a fantasy one built out of gumdrops and candy canes, where no one is ever hurt and everything is fair. No one wants to be around someone who is blind to the world around them.
Positive people are great. It only becomes a problem when it is so severe that relationships are affected.
The problem with being positive 100% of the time is that real issues that need to be dealt with are swept under the rug, until a person reaches a breaking point. Then, everyone is shocked when they see the implosion or explosion that happens with that person. It's not sustainable to try to be 100% positive, but it can be desirable to be positive more than you're negative. 80% positive seems like a good benchmark to aim for.
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