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I have lived alone for many years in the past, "lonely" does not appear in my vocabulary, bored sometimes but never lonely. some people NEED others around them, some do not.
Actually, my guess is that many older folks get very tired of people in general, and just want to be left alone. They're happier with the companionship of a pet than they are with people. Who can blame them, people are often a real pain.
I feel like that commercial where the cowboy says "I'm a loner and loners gotta be alone". I have a life partner who is essentially my only friend by choice. We truly enjoy each other's company and have done so for almost 30 years. He's an extrovert and I'm an introvert and understands that there are times when I just need to be "alone". Cause you know, "I'm a loner and loners gotta be alone".
I say no. The older you get, the more imminent your death becomes, the idea of spending an eternity alone in death makes the emptiness in life increasingly worse.
I just think it's best for me to start fresh some where else...and meet new people. Been cutting off people for the last few years( family and old friends) it's time for a change.
I have no friends and no romantic relationship as I have very poor social skills and suffer from Avoidant Personality Disorder. I used to be OK this way, but the spectre of loneliness casts a dark shadow over all of my days. I hate living. The rest of my life isn't working out any better, so I'm not sure whether it would be bearable if I were successful in other aspects of life.
People are put on this earth for each other. Some are meant to give, some to take, some to nurture, some to kill. It's the balance of nature, so to speak.
Life presents situations that alter your perspective on things so you shift your importance. 'Things' become less important and people become more important, but you carefully and sometimes without realizing, weed out those who have no interest in your life, or you in theirs. You welcome and leave your heart open to those you love because you realize that it is truly love that matters. But you give it cautiously.
I think it's okay for people to be alone but as we age, we need someone. Not necessarily to marry or live with, but a true friend to talk about aging with, to talk about losing our parents and that our children are now grown and have started their own lives with their own families and what do we do now? I, like many of you, do not have that person. I wish I did.
I think with threads like this is that far too many people project their own feelings onto others. They can't seem accept the fact that people are different and not everyone needs a lot of people or even close relationships with others.
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