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by that I mean im an open book and spill the beans on stuff. I cant lie about real things, yet I lie about fake things because I feel it helps me feel amoung others. like a fake GF and such.
but truth is, im a nice guy who tries for friends, real friends and yet all I FEEL is I get ppl who just use me for their benefit. I feel since I lost my best friend to his now wife, I lost everything.
I literally have no reason to keep on, but somehow I do. I think the logical thing is to end it.
This is confusing to me. So you lie about things that don't exist, but you're honest about things that are real? How does anyone know what's real vs fake in your life? I think at the end of the day this just makes you a pathological liar. I knew someone like this... she'd lie about things that she really didn't need to lie about. I asked her if the dishes were washed once, and she said no, even though she just finished washing them. She was weird like that.
I'd say end it if you want, but if the lies are innocent and don't really do much harm, do whatever makes you happy, so long as it's not affecting you or others.
id lie about like a gf once, but id exaggerate others(to me its lieing) but im honest for the most part. like ill tell ppl the t ruth but id bend it so it made me look better.
by that I mean im an open book and spill the beans on stuff. I cant lie about real things, yet I lie about fake things because I feel it helps me feel amoung others. like a fake GF and such.
but truth is, im a nice guy who tries for friends, real friends and yet all I FEEL is I get ppl who just use me for their benefit. I feel since I lost my best friend to his now wife, I lost everything.
I literally have no reason to keep on, but somehow I do. I think the logical thing is to end it.
You're faking your way through life because you're afraid if you're actually honest about who you are and what you want, you'll be rejected. You can't be upset with people for rejecting you though, if they've never actually met YOU.
You are using them via being "nice" and doing favors 99% of the time they probably didn't even ask you for, in order to have some sort of unspoken IOU from them that they'll like you. Look at your end, it's the only part you can control.
If I sound a bit harsh, it's because my last ex was this guy, too. Never said what he wanted but never failed to punish me for not reading his mind and delivering it anyway...either passive-aggressively, or worse, having a tantrum worthy of a two-year old. But he sees himself as a giant victim, "After everything I've done for you!!" and all that BS. It's hard to maintain attraction for someone like that, because it's impossible to ever have real intimacy with a person like that.
Good luck to you, but make no mistake, this is not about changing the people around you, it's about changing you.
Ahh, another "nice guy" who isn't so nice inside. This is why women typically avoid that type. Post above mine is solid!
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