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Old 07-20-2015, 11:08 PM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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You've run into them, people who claim they never get depressed.

Have you ever confronted one of these people, and said: You're behavior suggests you're depressed!

And what kind of behavior are we looking at?

Could this be of help? There's a razor-thin line between a laugh and a cry?
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Old 07-20-2015, 11:12 PM
 
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Google.com knows all when you search for the words...

signs of depression

You will find this...
Signs of Clinical Depression: Symptoms to Watch For
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Old 07-20-2015, 11:31 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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It generally helps to just focus on expressing your concern regarding the behavior, and not focusing on slapping a diagnostic label on it, especially if you are not a trained clinician.

Asking people questions about how they are doing, and expressing caring and showing empathy for them will also generally be much more accepted than "confronting" them and pronouncing them with a diagnosis.
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Old 07-21-2015, 12:07 AM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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Reading of symptoms, I'm guessing over-eating would be my brother's way of showing depression.

No matter what is going on his life, I've never known him not to be upbeat, jolly, optimistic, but he's very much over-weight.

Oh Lord! Just spending even a day with his narcissistic, sociopathic wife would plunge me in to a depression!

But, he has his own mechanic shop, working 12 hours a day, sometimes 7 days a week. So, perhaps, that's another sign of his depression: workaholism!
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Old 07-21-2015, 11:29 AM
 
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Sounds like a good way to start chit with someone. I would mind my own unless it was family.
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Old 07-22-2015, 02:24 AM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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They'll be quiet. They wouldn't talk so much. They wouldn't do what they enjoy doing.

This isn't totally true though. I, myself, for one, have been depressed in the last couple of months and I do at times laugh and smile, but deep inside I'm still hurt.
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Old 04-25-2018, 09:30 AM
 
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You can not be depressed but just be stuck in a negative mind set. Only a certified therapist can know this.
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Old 04-25-2018, 03:40 PM
 
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I did suggest to a friend, via email, a couple months ago that I thought she might have depression and described why.

We had shared a long email string of discussion and she'd said some amazingly dark, negative things plus made some nasty accusations about a notable person and forwarded a link to an online article about that person. Well, the article declared the opposite of what she had accused him of! Frankly, basic common sense would have indicated what she was saying wasn't likely and the very article declared it wasn't. I pointed it out and she was either truly confused (brain fog a common symptom) or just wanted to believe her accusations (that's kinda sick).

All that, plus her general loner inclination, tendency to complain about the smallest things and evidencing no real joy in anything made me draw the depression conclusion. I think I'm closer to right than wrong about it and I would want to know if someone thought I was! So, I told her and, to my amazement, she flew off the handle. Why would anyone be angry about a condition they do not chose? I think her reaction might further prove that she is depressed. A non-depressed person would not be very bothered and probably glad to be informed of the possibility. A depressed person might feel trapped, in denial, confused about what to do, etc....therefore angry.

It's tricky to suggest it to someone, for sure. But, wouldn't you want someone to tell you?
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Old 04-25-2018, 09:30 PM
 
Location: Northern Maine
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You've run into them, people who claim they never get depressed.

Have you ever confronted one of these people, and said: You're behavior suggests you're depressed!

And what kind of behavior are we looking at?

Could this be of help? There's a razor-thin line between a laugh and a cry?
Youre asking for directions on how to play god.
You might want to get help....for you.
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Old 04-25-2018, 10:09 PM
 
Location: Florida
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If you know them fairly well, you can pick up on it. At work, I’ve noticed friends over the years get quiet, moody, and just have that worried look. If I get the chance, I always ask them in a roundabout way how things are going. Leave the door open if they want to talk. They usually start talking about whatever issue it is, kids, spouses, BF, GF, money, and I always listen and try to give good advise if that’s warranted.

Throughout my world travels, people I barely know will usually tell me their troubles. I may have that kind of face or come across as someone who listens. Anyway, it’s fine, I’m a good listener and people pick up on it. I also never intrude unless asked. Should have made a profession of it.

Anyway, if you know the person, and their behavior changes, maybe it’s a good time to let them know you’re there if they need you.
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