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Old 08-02-2015, 07:27 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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No, I am never in places where I don't feel safe. I guess, say what you want to about Kansas and rural people but I read a lot of posts on C-D that make me glad I am here, at least on some days.

I don't see how talking on a cell phone would do a lot to discourage a violent person, some someone on drugs or having some sort of mental health breakdown. Maybe it would provide some psychological advantage to the person pretending to have a conversation since they might appear more confident rather than not knowing what to do to avoid looking afraid or where to keep their eyes, etc.
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Old 08-02-2015, 08:20 AM
 
Location: california
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I see people talking with out holding the phone ,mostly using the bluetooth ear mike ,but once in a while you can see that they really don't have that either, in which case they are talking to them self.
In moments of frustration ,when I was younger I'd talk to my self, sorting out a problem, but never in public .
Now days you could get away with it, just putting a blue tooth mike in your ear.
I glance at people while driving and there is a significant number of folk that are by them self talking ,presumably on their phone while driving using the blue tooth which is a good thing .
A lot of people walking the stores as well their face buried in their phone and little ones fallowing their example as young a 5 years old or less.
All this reminds me of the movie "The President's Annalist " a very old movie ,just a little before it's time actually.
As far as lengthy talkers , in person , If there is some where I must be I make that clear and thank them for their time and I bugger off.
On the phone with very long winded I make it clear that I am on a prepay phone and must watch my time so please get to the point.
Its not rude to make them behave ,it's making them see, they need to considerate.
While it may not be costing them, it's costing me.
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Old 08-02-2015, 09:20 AM
 
Location: Manhattan, NYC
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I've never done that. But I have a buddy that is ex-military and he is still living in another world. He tries to convince me and our other friends that he currently works for a CIA black ops type organization that does missions the government funds but stay secret and they use guys like him.

In his last attempt to continue the charade, when I walked on the deck from my house, he immediately appeared to be having a conversation on his phone once he saw me and he said things on the phone while having his imaginary conversation, like 'This is going to be a big job. I'll put together a five man team. Same guys we used in Sudan.' Then he laughed and said 'You know I live for this stuff. I just don't want to lose anyone like El Salvador in 2011.' and 'Have him meet me at the airport with the money & passports. I've already got guys on the ground with Intel that can supply us when we get in.'

Later that night when he was playing cards with a couple of other friends, I grabbed his phone he left on a chair behind him, went into my kitchen and scrolled through the call history and there was not an incoming or outgoing call at the time he staged his black ops mission conversation earlier.
That's... massive. A real black op guy would never let you know such details anyway, I suppose? Your friend really needs to consult a specialist anyway.

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Old 08-02-2015, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Manhattan, NYC
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I only walk to my office so I don't have to commute or anything. When I travel, I am basically in the car, in the lounge or in the plane... so no real need to call anyone, just my wife to let her know everything is fine.

I believe talking alone would not suit me, I mean which stories would I say anyway? However, I would listen to music fight boredom. And I might compulsively check my work emails, because there is probably one (my job deals with a lot of mails) but also maybe due to me wanting to look "busy"? .

Also I believe it could make sense to be on the phone with someone familiar for women in some situations... at least, if they ever get mugged or worst, the person on the other side can call 911 straight away.

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Old 08-02-2015, 11:05 AM
 
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The Fresh Prince addressed this problem back in 1994, in these lyrics: "that's when I seen this beautiful girly-girl walkin'/pulled out the car phone/to perpetrate like I was talkin' "
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Old 08-02-2015, 12:56 PM
 
Location: Clearwater, FL
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You can't just say "No thank you" to the flyers?
I do not understand what makes this non issue such an issue for so many.

The words "No thank you" or "I don't have time to chat today" or "Hi, how are you today" and keep moving are not that difficult to use instead of a fake telephone call.

What in the world would you do if you had to face actual humans before cell phones?
What "trick" would you use to get away from them?
For me, having to constantly interact with people is exhausting. I'm very much an introvert, and every conversation (no matter how short and menial) is a little bit draining to me. I'd rather use my limited people energies with my friends and family than have to run a gauntlet of turning down products and flyers when I'm simply trying to get from point A to point B.
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Old 08-02-2015, 09:32 PM
 
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I've never done that (pretending to talk), but I have looked at my cell phone as if I'm responding to an important text if I feel really uncomfortable or don't want to socialize with strangers.
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Old 08-03-2015, 12:42 PM
 
Location: FL
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I had to resort to pretending to talk on the phone when I had a new next-door neighbor who made me her BFF. I work from home and take my coffee breaks in my backyard lanai. I need to be outside in the fresh air and sunlight to recharge.

The previous owners of the house next door had planted landscaping along the property line in the back for privacy. This new neighbor pruned a hole in the bushes/trees so when she was in her screened porch, she could see if I was outside. Yes, she told me that - proudly!

When she saw me sitting in my lanai, she would come over uninvited. She didn't work and didn't "get" the fact that working from home doesn't equal unlimited socialization time. Telling her straight out that I didn't have time to socialize got me nowhere. She was a nonstop yapper. I'd have to cut her off mid-sentence, get up, and go inside. I was uncomfortable doing that because she was otherwise a very sweet person, and I actually enjoyed her company when I had the time.

I finally resorted to taking my cell phone outside for every break. When I heard her door open, I put the phone to my ear and pretended to be listening intently while saying things like "Yes" and "Okay." If she started coming over anyway, I'd wave her away and mouth something like "Client emergency."

After awhile, she stopped coming over during the day.
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