Why are most people A-Holes?

[HappyRain]

Sometimes people have bad days.

And sometimes the person may not be a jerk at all, but something you did came off in a bad light, and they responded in a negative way. And because you weren't intentionally doing anything, it comes off "damn, they were a jerk." Misunderstandings. Like how some people try to give a compliment, but chose bad wording and it sounds like an insult.

Somehow, it's best to work on thickening your skin, so that way, regardless of other people's reasoning, you won't care what they think, and their actions won't bother you. Now, how one could go about that, I don;t know. But there's probably some coping methods.

If someone comes off as rude, or jerkish, I try to ignore it. Sometimes, it just makes things simpler rather than making a scene, or potentially fighting over something trivial. Like someone being rude at Wal-Mart or something. Not engaging needless confrontation is a more mature approach, imo

So one doesn't have to be a doormat. They just assert themselves when it's a more important issues, rather than "they had an attitude with me."

[katie45]

Unfortunately, lack of courtesy and etiquette have waned. Not that all people are that way, but too many are; and too many accept it as 'it is what it is'.

Unless it's completely impossible, I stay clear of any and all a-holes.

[ohhwanderlust]

Originally Posted by AmorphicDN

It is a function of biology known as Dunbar's Number. This is not a joke. Serious evolutionary biological science.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunbar%27s_number


Humans living in small clan groups of fewer than 150 individuals experience very little conflict. None of the kind we "advanced civilized" people would cite to describe another as an "A-hole".

How do you explain places like Japan then?