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Due to a severe handicap i get judged everyday i go out in public. Some males think i should speak only when spoken too. It goes way beyond that. I am sure many know that.You only lose when you let that stuff bother you.
Wow, that's a rough way to be received. The only judging that is appropriate to apply to handicapped people is whether or not they can use any assistance with a particular task. And then, always ask before you attempt to help. Any of us could have been born with a handicap, or acquire one at any age.
I have to admit that I sometimes feel bad for what the handicapped have to go through, but I never feel sorry for them. That's just condescending.
Beauty can be a curse, as well (I would not know from personal experience, though ). Suppose someone with the brain of Stephen Hawkings looked like Lonnie Anderson, Dolly Parton, or Tom Brady?....
Also, some people with great personal magnetism or beauty sometimes coast on this aspect of themselves, and fail to develop a more substantial mind.....
Why is is that there are no (generally speaking)
Beautiful politicians, preachers, doctors, professors, nuns, bus drivers, garbage men, repair people, dentists...you get the drift.
It would be an interesting study to assess the B factor by occupation....
I think I size people up people less by their appearance and more for their character and emotional state. Are they angry and explosive? Are they confused? Sad?
Are they polite? Considerate? Friendly?
Those are the sorts of things I notice the most. Then I decide what part I may play in interaction with them, if any.
I think discernment when we meet another human is instinctual and is basically a safety mechanism. We first decide whether we can protect ourselves physically and then second, emotionally, from any possible threat. It's an age-old reaction and can be so subconscious we don't even recognize it's there.
At that point our own personalities kick in and we may connect, reject, help, whatever the situation calls for depending on what kind of a person we are and past experiences.
Everyone judges people on how they look (and about a million other things). Making observations and assessing is an automatic part of interacting with others.
Whether or not you HOLD ON TO those initial impressions, whether or not they are proven to be accurate of indicative of any greater truth, is more the question.
If people are being honest, I believe EVERYONE judges on appearances!
To some extent, I think that is this is true. I also find that in a circle of friends, people who take care of themselves, tend to have friends who do the same. People who let themselves go, have friends who do not tend to their appearance.
There are many reasons for this. Let's be honest.
Everyone sizes up people using different standards. How is their grammar? Do they seem cheerful or grumpy? Are they the type of people who make racial or sexist jokes? Do they keep up with current events? Are they set in their ways - or open to other people or new things?
Our appearance tells others a lot about another person's values and lifestyle. When I meet a middle aged woman who is dressed in 1980s clothes, with big hair and 2" fingernails, there is a high probability that we will not have much in common.
However, I think that much of this is dome on the subconscious level.
If people are being honest, I believe EVERYONE judges on appearances!
^^This. It's human nature. Everybody does it everyday.
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